Do you believe facebook is real life?

[knittedscarff]

Although my divorce has been finalized for a while, my ex-h is still struggling with the consequences of his infidelity and its impact on our marriage. Both of us have facebooks, I'm not "friends" with him, but all of our family, friends, and colleagues overlap. My profile is "public" meaning anyone can see it.

Anyway, I don't really get the whole social networking thing - or I should say - I don't get why people confuse real life with online life. I don't use mine to update anything real in my life, and most of my updates are random "Don't stop believing, Tony Soprano!" or "I'll buy a vowel, can I use Ritz crackers as money."

In a nutshell, I don't post things sentimental info like, My children are such a blessing or Copy and paste this if you want to stop cancer. It's nice to see what old friends have been doing, but I'm not really into it as a way to communicate. Sometimes I put a few pics of the kids online so their relatives in other places can see, but even then, not too many.

But about two weeks ago when exchanging the kids, he mentioned something like "Oh, you like the Sopranos, huh?'" And for a moment, I was completely blank, I had no idea what he was talking about, and then it hit me I had written that (it's actually a different example but close enough).

In a nutshell, he seems to think that what he sees online is real or has some hidden code....for him. In my mind, I posted that standing in line at a store bc I was bored.

This is kind of a tangent from someone else's thread, but it surprised me that people put their business out for people to see, like lots of pics and personal stuff.

Do people really think what you put online is a window into your soul?

I guess it's like what someone else posted - I'm not going to put up mushy stuff about loving my kids on a facebook page. I know it they know it, I don't think facebook needs to know it.

[ScaredinCanada]

It can be.

I put a mix of real life, and my imagination on there. I mostly try to have fun with, and like you use it to stay upto date on friends and family. I've likely seen more pictures of friends and families children then I would have in real life.

I would worry about it too much, some people just take themselves and everyone else - too seriously.

To quote The Joker, "Why so serrrrious?!"

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[zengypsy]

Someone once said on a thread somewhere a few weeks ago that FB is the devil's playground. I couldn't agree more.

I think that some people really do use the internet and places like FB as a billboard. I personally prefer to use it as a window. My STXH and I are friends...for now. Not sure when the D is final how that is all going to unfold. My STXH couldn't wait to change his status to "seperated" and remove all the photos of us when he left 1 year ago. He has blocked me and unblocked me at least 3 times since our seperation.

I have not blocked him once. I have nothing to hide. I haven't removed pics of him and I. I have left my status off my profile page. I think I have had more respect for our situation then he does.

FB sometimes reminds me of the "rag" mags you see in the checkout line. People believe and hear what they want to. It's all part of the illusion!