New to DBing. I made my H move out due to verbal abuse 2008 (as I was working on setting boundaries etc), found out 10 mnths later he had been having a 2 year PA (2 days after my 40th B-day). Highschool sweethearts, together 26 yrs, M: 23 of those. Kids almost grown. I don't want a divorce. H continued PA for almost a year, just recently ended it, 7/10. We are still seperated. I have longterm counselor & have recently begain DB coaching. We were very codependent on each other & communication was not good. We text daily, coparent our 16 y/o daughter & have a son 19 in Afganistan. He fears face to face & things going back the way they were. Basically ILYBNILWY...I have been actively working on me. No talk of R right now. Moving into the "friend" mode which concerns me as I have been terrible hurt realizing his actions were not consistant with a "friend".
[edit by dbmod is to start new thread for newcomer, and change title to New Here. Originally part of General Info for Newcomers thread)
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H 42, W 41 M 23, T 26 2Kids: S 19, D 16 H had 2 year PA Seperated
