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Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? Jack_Three_Beans #2128087 02/08/11 07:25 PM
Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ T tadpole1025 OP Member
OP tadpole1025 Member T Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ	Well Jack, I guess I could: Rearrange the living room furniture Have her sit in another room Don't sit in there with her (act as if and do my own thing) Am I atleast on the right track? On another note, W is seeing changes in me but I'm afraid they are changes that she doesn't like. (Although, I don't know why)Ever since this mess started, I've become much closer to my kids, especially my S18. W made a comment to my SIL the other day that I was trying to become my S18's best friend. She made it sound like a negative thing. Why is that a bad thing? See what I mean? I'm beginning to think that I don't have a chance. Any thoughts? Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29 The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? tadpole1025 #2128093 02/08/11 07:33 PM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 234 Maryland M Matt-14 Member
Matt-14 Member M Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 234 Maryland	I would invite her in....and be cordial and friendly...like none of this bothers you. Be happy.......be attractive. At least until she leaves

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? tadpole1025 #2128104 02/08/11 08:19 PM
Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,711 Likes: 255 M Mach1 Member
Mach1 Member M Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,711 Likes: 255	Originally Posted By: tadpole1025 I'm beginning to think that I don't have a chance. Any thoughts? You only "don't have a chance" , if you think you don't have a chance.... If you had a one in a million chance in this... Would you still take it ? Would you strive everyday to be the "one" ? What up Matt ?

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? Mach1 #2128108 02/08/11 08:26 PM
Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ T tadpole1025 OP Member
OP tadpole1025 Member T Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ	I guess I just have to believe. To answer the question: Hell yes I would take it. She means the world to me. Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29 The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? Mach1 #2128109 02/08/11 08:27 PM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 234 Maryland M Matt-14 Member
Matt-14 Member M Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 234 Maryland	Hey Mach ....whats happening? Not much here...I still check in though from time to time. I can't seem to get any free time between work, the kids and Black Op's. Matt

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? Matt-14 #2128113 02/08/11 08:35 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	Then be the 1. If you wear your heart on your sleeve, she'll notice that. If you're sad, hurt, upset, she'll notice that. Tad, right now you think DB is all about the spouse, and it is not. It's about you. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? Matt-14 #2128114 02/08/11 08:36 PM
Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,711 Likes: 255 M Mach1 Member
Mach1 Member M Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,711 Likes: 255	Originally Posted By: Matt-14 Black Op's. Haven't hit that addiction yet....yet Still killing zombies though.: ) Tad.... Faith Faith that you will be the one, out of that million...

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? tadpole1025 #2128125 02/08/11 08:58 PM
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,542 California G Grace_O Member
Grace_O Member G Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,542 California	Tad, Believing is good, the actions we take that allow us to keep believing are better. HUGS

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? Grace_O #2128139 02/08/11 09:44 PM
Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ T tadpole1025 OP Member
OP tadpole1025 Member T Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ	Thanks everyone. I'll keep you updated. Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29 The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13

Re: (NA) 25 Years Gone...? tadpole1025 #2128227 02/09/11 02:20 AM
Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ T tadpole1025 OP Member
OP tadpole1025 Member T Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,327 Likes: 21 Phoenix, AZ	Is she peeking out of the tunnel? She just called and wants to take all of our sons out dinner. When I tried to hang up, she said "what's the rush? I wasn't done." We talked for about 30 more seconds and finally hung up. Is this good DBing on my part? She also made a comment on one of our mutual friends' FB page. She hasn't done that in months. Should I take that as anything? Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29 The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13

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