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[lostinscared]

I'm so sorry, Joel. What exactly did she say she wanted???

I'm praying for you.

LIS

[JR09]

My W refiled 1 MAR. I'm saddened but kind of expected it, so it's OK. I'm also relieved because I now see an end to all this. Maybe a starting point to start anew as the new Joel. I'm OK. This time I know this D process will go thru all the way. I'm at peace with it. Maybe I should not have asked for a specific date to receive an answer...I admit that.

On the other hand, I feel relieved, I really do. I still welcome the news with saddness, but I am not as crushed as the first time around. I am OK. I know what matters is to be the best dad I can be, no matter what. The boys know that. That's what matters most.

I have fought a good fight, I have kept the faith.

Joel

[MichelleLT]

I am very sorry to hear that.

I am glad you are dealing with it better this time around.

I am sure you are relieved. I felt the same way. It freed me to move on completely without guilt (in theory, I still find I look back with sadness though).

You will be the best dad you can be.

And you did fight, long and hard.

[JR09]

Michele,

If you were able to tough it thru and come out on top, I can do it too. I always say broken people also have a chance to be happy again someday...I am one of them.

Joel

[lostinscared]

Joel,

I wish you a lot of peace and happiness. You absolutely fought the good fight and I have a lot to learn from you about patience. You have so much to be proud of.

I'm praying for you.

LIS

[MichelleLT]

We all can.

We all have to.

It's either that or wallow in misery and bitterness forever, and that doesn't sound like fun to me! I'm more than happy to leave that to my XH lol.

[WCW]

Shucks, sorry it's heading the way it is. We all reach a point where we can accept the outcome, whatever it is, and just knowing what the direction is feels like such a relief.

I remember after years of limbo I told my H that I just wanted a change, we could finish what he started or we could stay together, but I wouldn't keep living the same way. The direction we took was his choice.

I didn't put more pressure on him for a long time, but any time we did talk I said the same thing, and the long road back began.

And of course, it doesn't have to be over for you, it's your choice.

[MichelleLT]

Hope you are doing well Joel. Post us an update sometime about your GAL activities.