Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
There isn't much to say to that. You knew it was going to be a tough day. All I can say is that divorce is a piece of paper and this isn't over until you say it is.
I wish I had words of comfort for you... You're in my prayers.
I'm so sorry, Pickle. As someone who has filed for divorce myself (and am now still happily married), I can tell you that it's NOT over yet, so don't lose hope. Also, statistics show that 20% of divorced couples end up RE-MARRYING EACH OTHER, with most reporting that their marriages are better than they ever were before.
Time to work on YOU -- that's the way you have to look at this.
"I think you get into trouble when you drag in the MLC as a key caveat that obscures all the particulars. It's the particulars that matter: stressors, ego-integrity, and so on. I can't, for example, point to a wealth of recent logitudinal studies that support the actual existence of what you are calling a midlife crisis. I can, on the other hand, point to studies like Susan Krauss Whitbourne's and many others that directly contradict popular assumptions (popular among the general public, but not so much with research Psychologists) supporting the midlife crisis as common feathre of adult development. In fact, pshychologists commonly regard that diagnosis and model as 'not helpful'."
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Okay, so what are you trying to say?
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Sorry to hear that Pickle. Keep your head up. Things will be better for you soon enough... one way or the other.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Im soooo sorry to hear this news Pickle! I'm praying for you. It's not over yet....its just a piece of paper...GOD is the only one who know the outcome. So, just put your focus on him today...
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
