I'd unblock him. I mean I'm not seeing or reading what you are on his FB wall, but it doesn't sound that bad to me.
FB can be a good thing for us DBers if you use it right. If you are actively GALing, you can use it as a window for your H to see all of the fun that you are having and that you are just fine without him (remember, acting 'as if' here)...
Unfortunately, FB is also a window into what your H is doing. I think that this is a personal call Chrys. If it is too painful, then shut the blinds on that window. If it isn't that bad and you can take it, then leave the window there. In some cases, it is the only connection bw the LBS and the WAS.
For me it hasn't been bad. I used it to post some pics and words about some fun things that I was doing. I didn't go overboard, but my W did make a couple of sarcastic remarks to a couple of pics back in December. On the other hand, my W did not use it to abuse me. She didn't post anything on her FB account that she wouldn't have posted while we were together AND she did not change her status from being M'd to S or 'it's complicated' or 'single'.
Tough call Chrys. But this doesn't sound too bad to me.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
ugh.. turns out once you block and then unblock someone you have to 're-friend' them.. So i think it'll be a while before i send that request out... i'll be afraid of rejection if he doesn't accept.
THIS is why i shouldn't make rash decisions.. lol
Me-41 H-34 T-9 M-8 10/21/10-BOMB 11/01/10-H moves out 01/27/12-H files
"Good memories tell you that your past was worth it, bad ones tell you that you were strong enough to go on"
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
my H just sent me an email saying he's coming by the house at 3pm today.. does he not realize what today is ? or does he ?
We're in the middle of fixing up the house to either sell or rent and he said he needs to come by and make a list of things he has to start on.. he has to do that today?? He's neglected to do that for 3 weeks and he picks Valentines.
I want to see him so bad, but I don't know if i can handle it and i don't want to blow it and break down in front of him.
I've not had any contact with him for about 5 days and with the recent removing him off facebook I've not had to see him much (pics etc.) Is it possible to think that may be bothering him ? I hate getting my hopes up. I mean for all i know he could legitimately be stopping by our house as a pit stop to conduct business and then be on his way to his V-day date.
I can't breathe.. lol
Me-41 H-34 T-9 M-8 10/21/10-BOMB 11/01/10-H moves out 01/27/12-H files
"Good memories tell you that your past was worth it, bad ones tell you that you were strong enough to go on"
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Chrys - Take a deep breath and calm down. First, please, please don't get your hopes and expectations up too high about what is going to happen. I don't mean to be a stick in the mud, but I don't want you to be let down. Be happy that you have an opportunity to see him and to DB this afternoon. If something even better happens, then that is just icing on the cake.
Second, you need to really be prepared to focus on DB when he comes to the house. Go review any notes you've taken or go review that parts of DR that you have been applying to your situation. It's these opportunities that we are all preparing for when we are doing all of this work.
Lastly, as grr would say... go make yourself look hot!!
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
zen, i do have to be at the house today because I have some stuff I have to get ready for as I'll be having band practice for 5pm and we practice at my house plus he wants to talk to me about the website we're working on.
denver I know I cannot get my hopes up, i cannot afford to do that and then have a let down. So i'm going to try and focus on the fact that he's probably just completely oblivious and this is just 'another day' to him and he's simply coming round to tie up some loose ends.
I WILL however use this opportunity to be on my best DB behaviour and practice with diligence everything i've absorbed. Thank you for calming me down
Normally on Mondays (because i get up so freakin early) i'm a baseball hat kinda gal because i work in an auto plant in the QC dept. and don't have to look all girly... but today i actually got up, got showered and did my hair and makeup and wore a nice outfit and i've been getting compliments all day so that has been a nice boost so i'll be all dolled up when i walk through the door after work.. thank goodness i took the effort today ! lol
Me-41 H-34 T-9 M-8 10/21/10-BOMB 11/01/10-H moves out 01/27/12-H files
"Good memories tell you that your past was worth it, bad ones tell you that you were strong enough to go on"
Lastly, as grr would say... go make yourself look hot!!
BITS Denver
LMAO - You still have time to go buy leopard print shoes!!!!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
appreciated. I've just been having a really tough week so i think seeing everything posted was just exaggerated for me.