Acting as if no longer an act

[canadianMrs.]

Big change of events over the weekend. Last week my H brought up MC. I had my reservations, but he was suppose to look into one through work and I was suppose to look into one that had been recommended by a friend. A week goes by and I do my part and hear nothing from him. Fri night I went downstairs and showed him the info I had got. He starts in on hes not sure about MC anymore, nothing has changed for him, etc etc. I said nothing (although thinking, of course nothing has changed, you've done nothing to change your behavior etc). We didn't finish the conversation because of course he gets paged to go back to work (part of our problem). That night I was fed up. I've been feeling discouraged, questioning my 180 etc all week and this was like the last straw. I know it goes against DB, but I was tired of his hot and cold behavior, making promises to work on us and then doing the opposite.
Saturday I was just mad. I was hanging out in my room with the door locked to gather myself before being around my kids. He knocks on the door and keeps knocking. I finally let him in. He asks what I'm doing and I say I'm just having some me time.
He keeps pushing for what is wrong, and I say camly that I think it is time for him to move out, at least for awhile. That every few years there is some change he needs to make in his life and the rest of us have to rearrange our lives for him, and this is just another example and I'm tired of it. How he has doing nothing to wrok on our R and that I never thought he would be someone to devalue his family so much to give up on us so easily, and I don't want to be with someone like that anyway. I said a few other things. I didn't say it rude, I was very calm. He was speachless and teary eyed. I then said I had said what I neeeded and I would leave him with his thoughts. I left the room and used the LRT for the rest of the day. He finds me later and asks to talk. I just listen but he apologizes for his behavior and that he does care but he is just very confused and that he thinks he should go to IC before we work on our R/MC. This coming form a man that 6 weeks ago couldn't wait to get a D. Now I'm giving him the chance to go and he won't take it. I'm still doing the LRT but I really am at a place where I think I'll be fine either way. I'm GAL and if he is part of it that is great but I'm nohaving any expectaions. I've realized that while I'm not perfect H has done a lot of self centered things in our R and he hasn't followed through on a lot of things in the past, so

[canadianMrs.]

(last bit got cut off?)
this time around I'm not going to believe him until I see it, but it was still great to take the power back. I didn't want to feel like the victim anymore.