I've been reading these forums for nearly 5 months, they've been a great help.
I’ve been married to my wife for 7 years with 2 kids aged 6 and 4. In august I got the ILBY speech
I was in a situation where my W was about to walk away at that point. She wanted nothing more to do with me and was looking for an apartment. Among other things she was no longer comfortable kissing me, told me she never wanted sex again, and for me to move on.
I tried and tried to find evidence of OM but there simply was none, email, face book, cell phones etc, I looked hard and found nothing.
Fast forward to now, our sex life has come back and she is again comfortable with me seeing her naked. She has become far more affectionate,. We seem to be spending more time together and really enjoying each others company. The other thing is she is speaking of the future again with me in it, about how she wants to go on holiday next year together etc, this is a total turn around from a few months ago. I’m also getting ILY’s from her again , I never say it first to her anymore. Ohh and the search for the apartment has been totally abandoned.
However there are still some strange things going on . She’s initiated some R talks about how her romantic feelings have not returned but she is trying really hard to get them back, then messaging me on Skype a few hours later telling me “ILY and your amazing”
Last week, she said “ that some days I’m really hopeful about us and other days not, but I want to go to marriage counselling to try and work on keeping us together. She has been doing a lot of thinking about different scenarios and stuff she could have said and done differently. The marriage counselling is something I suggested at the beginning of my sitch but she kept refusing so I dropped it. I’m taking this as a hopeful sign.
We’ve both made huge changes over the last 5 months, I’m not sure if that’s had an effect, I’m just not sure whats going on, am I piecing my marriage together?
