I know they are symbols, but wanted to get a perspective on who still wears their rings, if their WAS does or not. Does it mean anything in DB or DR. Many have told me it makes a statement, but i had to take mine off yesterday, as it wont stay on any longer i guess due to my heartbreak diet....
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
I know they are symbols, but wanted to get a perspective on who still wears their rings, if their WAS does or not. Does it mean anything in DB or DR. Many have told me it makes a statement, but i had to take mine off yesterday, as it wont stay on any longer i guess due to my heartbreak diet....
I had a tough time with this too. I wore it up until about 3 weeks ago. I finally decided that continuing to wear ring was me being subconsciously in denial of sitch. That was my choice.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I know they are symbols, but wanted to get a perspective on who still wears their rings, if their WAS does or not. Does it mean anything in DB or DR. Many have told me it makes a statement, but i had to take mine off yesterday, as it wont stay on any longer i guess due to my heartbreak diet....
My W still wears hers, only takes them off when she cooks. I wish I could still wear my wedding band. I lost it while I was at work about 8 months ago. I was devasted, but maybe it was karma. To be honest with the 40 pounds I've lost I'm positive it would fit me anymore.
I look at my W all the time and first time I check is that she has her rings on...for now they are still on.
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
Not taken mine off except to shower. Of course this is like my 3rd ring. Original wedding band I lost a couple years ago. Got replacement earlier this year (yes, I went a couple of years with no ring.) Lost the replacement as it was too big. Got another replacement that fits. I'm not really hung up on the ring thing. Although I was curious if my W would take off hers early on. My W has worn hers throughout everything. I don't usually think about whether W is wearing them because I just know she is. If she stopped, I would probably ask.
For me if things went south I'd probably wear it until D was final.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
SIC, I don't even know why I post. We are identical.
My wife wears hers everyday, but takes off to cook when home. I lost mine 2 months ago out in our grove. I threw something into the burn pit and it flew off, because of divorce diet. I looked for days. Even bought a metal detector. Never did find it, but my son has a lot of fun with his new toy.
If I would have lost it a year ago maybe it would not have been so bad, but because I lost it after the bomb, it felt like an omen. It hurt bad. It was like, what else could happen. And then my son spilled the beans about me losing it, and she said, "no big deal, doesn't matter". aaaaargh.
H-40 W-38 Together-20 Married-12 boy-7 girl-3 bomb-9/17/10 No papers live together No affair
i don't mean to be thread-jack .. but i gotta know.
you're all here because your spouses are walking away. and yet, you have said that your spouses still wear their rings.
to me, that's a great sign. they are honoring the marriage until the D is final. you have hope so db your butts off!
me? as soon as we moved into separate apartments (we sold our house), my ring came off. there was no question. i was barely into the separation when i took it off. i lost weight too but that wasn't the reason for me taking it off.
i was done. and i think i took my ring off before he did. it wasn't until he noticed that i was no longer wearing mine that he removed his. and to this day, i'm not D yet .. but i get a lot of attention with no ring on my finger.
don't get me wrong. i wanted to save my m. but then i woke up from my own fog. did i still want to be married to a narcissistic prick who mentally and verbally abused me for years? i hope he rots in hell.
how would you feel if your Ws took hers off pre-D? curious as to what men think about this.
a ring is the symbol of love and fidelity. My W was wearing her ring until I took it off for her... That she was wearing the symbol of her love and fidelity while she was involved in an affair....slap in the face as far as I am concerned.
"don't get me wrong. i wanted to save my m. but then i woke up from my own fog. did i still want to be married to a narcissistic prick who mentally and verbally abused me for years? i hope he rots in hell." How do you really feel? I find a lot of lbs do carry a fog once they get bombed. It is honorable to try and save your marriage, but reality is that some people are so set in their ways and determined to be right, that it is not possible. Some people never change so, sooner or later you just save yourself and wish them well (or wish they rot in hell, to each their own).
