My Story.

[ots]

Mr. Bond: ASAP. Can't be more accurate. I'm just letting the lawyers deal with it.

As far as how I have a date, I'm attractive, assertive, and most importantly: I asked.

[MrBond]

Tread very carefully. She could use it against you. Then you might be hurting the new person by dragging her along with you.

[ots]

Mr. Bond: that's completely legitimate.

I talked to my L, and she said to date or do whatever with whoever I want. She said that the way the laws are written in our state, who sleeps with who really doesn't make a difference any more. It's simply grounds, and STBX has already filed for "irreconcilable differences".

[ots]

So... good date. 4 hours of drinks and conversation, along with some spark.

Then when I drove back to where I'm sleeping, I passed my house. Strange car in the driveway. I'm an idiot for even driving by.

[kml]

((((((hugs))))))

I know it stings, but just think - whatever poor sucker ends up with her - is gonna end up with a cheater.

I'm glad you had a nice date. Everybody handles dating differently. And while it is usually problematic if you are still hung up on your ex - sometimes it is just what you need to see that your ex wasn't all that.

Now, I'd had a LOT more time to process than you have - but the guy I dated after my ex left really restored my confidence (because he thinks I'm hot ) and showed me what I'd really been missing out on with my ex, because he was really a better man in many ways.

Just be careful that you don't latch on to the first woman who is nice to you. Be discriminating in your choices.

[g450]

OMG kml I can so relate to that.

OTS listen to what she just said. It's easy to fall for the first skirt that is nice to you. At the risk of sounding like a jerk, I have to say there are a lot of damaged single people out there. Especially in my age group.

But to be fair, I am one of them LOL.

[ots]

Meh. It sucked for like 12 hours. I'm over it now. It wasn't really so much a jealousy over her shock, as much as it was a "I'm that replaceable?" kinda sting.

As far as not latching onto the next skirt: yeah. I'm aware of that pitfall. To help, I have a date with a different girl on saturday, and a second date with girl A on sunday for brunch. Additionally, I've kinda disclosed my sitch (not all the details obviously) to both of them, so I doubt either of them (being sane as far as I know) are sprinting to be the next love of my life.

Signing lease on new apartment tomorrow. Felt good to be taking a concrete "moving on" step. On the other hand I was like "I just bought a big nice house in the nice part of town and now I'm doing this?"

Such is life.

I hope everyone has a happy and healing evening!

[ots]

OK. Good weekend. Started to move some stuff into new place. Two dates, both of which went well.

Now for a good week!

[ots]

Good interview this morning. now to IC and then to L.

[ots]

Clearing out house tomorrow of my stuff. This should be super awesome.