D is final - new thread

[LookingFrAnswers]

Hi all,
My dissolution was final yesterday, and as I sat in Panera afterward, I tried to start a new thread on here from my blackberry. Wouldn't work, but it was my first impulse.

It wasn't pleasant but as Ds go I'm sure many on here have endured much worse. I will post more later but I wanted to thnak all my DB friends who have been with me every steop of the past year and 9 months. Even those who've never posted to me helped by sharing their own stories. I wish you all peaceful holiday season! Hugs,
LFA

[ClingingToHope]

Merry Christmas.

[avermont]

Hey LFA-

Well, I'm glad your D is finally past. And sorry, too, of course, for all the pain along the way.

I hope this helps boost you on your way to getting your new life really up and running.

Your goals are GREAT. Achievable and realistic.

I will help keep you accountable to them, if you want me too!

Does it feel different/better to have this last step taken care of? Was it too weird seeing your X?

I hope you can take some time off from work over the holidays, to take the time to re-direct your brain, heart, and energy to your new life.

Ever considering joining us in the alt? I'm avermont there, too!

I hope you are enjoying peaceful, lovely holidays!

Much love-

Aver

[LookingFrAnswers]

You too, CTH! I hope you are doing well. Peace in the New Year to you.
(((())))LFA

[LookingFrAnswers]

((((Aver)))),
Thanks. Yes it was weird, and I think it will be better, down the road. We are not quite done with the money stuff though. And this is mostly b/c I have to drive it. But it's getting there. My L said she'd make sure he does everything the D says he's supposed to.

He was calm, and very chatty, letting me know he got a new job 2 1/2 mos. ago for much better money. And he's thinking about getting a new job. I asked him about his parents, & got an update, & I was glad to hear they seem to be doing well. He did not ask @ me or my family, but just liked to talk @ his new job. It was very weird, like talking to someone you used to know a long time ago like at a high school reunion.

Met my sister & a friend afterward, it was a sorrowful day, despite my best intentions, and an exhausting one. I did not go into work, & took a 6 hr. nap afterward.

Anyway, having this in the midst of holdiays I haven't really had time to process, for good or bad. I can't control it, only my own behavior. Trying hard to remember that, plus all the good advice I've been given.

I finally made a FB page Aver, - look for my friend request next time you go to the alt. Looking fwd to talking more!
Sending you hugs & wishes for a peaceful holiday season. Don't think I wished you a Happy Hannuka, please accept my belated wishes. ((((Aver)))). Talk soon, dear friend
LFA

[NNP1965]

glad to see you started a new thread... I'll be back when I have more time to post.

[LookingFrAnswers]

Thanks NNP, Hope you had a nice NY's. I see your D paperwork is going through, how are you doing with that?

[NNP1965]

I'm okay. My NY resolution is to spend sometime each day doing something for myself or figuring something new out about me.

Did you have a hard time chatting with your H? I have a hard time even looking at mine.

[LookingFrAnswers]

Hi NNP, Well, it was awkward. He acted really quite normal, talking alot about his new job. My goal was to act happy & unphased, not quite sure I pulled it off. But it was civil. I would have preferred not to be there but I had to be.

I think that is a great resolution! Each day, then it becomes a habit. I like that! Hope you are taking good care.
LFA