My h asked my s what i would like for xmas from my son. I dont know if I should say "I dont need anything thanks", or give suggestion not extravagant though. I kind of feel that if i ask for something it is kind of approving of his a, or maybe hes testing the waters a little . I shouldnt read to much into it.
Well at this point I am divorced and my ex still buys me gifts from the kids for mother's day, my birthday, and Christmas. So if your son would like to get you a Christmas present, why not suggest something reasonable. For example my kids already let it slip that they bought me an electric griddle. Because I make them pancakes all the time and only have a 10" skillet!!
If your H wants to get you something from S, then suggest something accordingly, but if it is something from H to you, then suggest H get you something he would like for you to have. I stopped hinting around for what I might like to get, then H started asking me what I wanted, and I would tell him that, so he would have to think about it for himself. I would not have asked for diamonds, but I did get them. I would have asked for fuzzy socks, or cookware, or a sweater.
I'm glad your S has an appt. for the counselor this week. I think it did my S a world of good when I took him. Did you ever talk to your H about what to get for S for Christmas? Perhaps a gift that you have thought about, but want his input?
