HELP! Impending R talk with WAW

[NotReadyToQuit]

I desperately need some advice. My W just sent me an email telling me that I should start looking for new insurance for myself (we use her work ins.-better rates). She said we could talk about it tonight.

I thought things were going so well, but apparently I was wrong. What do I do? Should I tell her again that I'm not done trying, or just go along with what she wants?

My thread is "help save my WAW" (not sure how to link it)

[tank]

just a thought, i'm on my w's insurance plan and i maintain that right until a divorce is final. She cant take me off of it even though she is living with OM. Its worth looking into, just for yourself. I suggest that you look into it, get comparable quotes and once you have that information, tell her what your going to do.

Dont let insurance drag you into a relationship talk. if you must say something, say thanks for the FYI and that you will look into it.

[NotReadyToQuit]

thank you tank. that's what i'll do. i'm just going to tell her that i've already been looking for new plans and appreciate the heads-up. it's still like a punch in the gut though.

[tank]

i know all about those punch's. Just tell her thankyou and you will start looking. by saying you have already been looking, it might be recieved as you were already moving on etc. keep it simple.

[bluestar]

I agree to keep it simple but you should make sure she knows that she can't just dump you off the plan. If you have been on her plan, you have a legal right to remain on it until a D is final. If you haven't sought legal counsel yet, I would suggest that you do it asap.

[tank]

NRTQ, How did the insureance talk work out?

[NotReadyToQuit]

we didn't talk about it at all last night. she emailed me again today asking me again, because the deadline was tomorrow. she asked if i wanted to remain on the insurance for a while or if i already had a plan lined up for the first of the year. I simply said "if i could stay on a little longer it would help." She said "no problem" and that was it.

it didn't seem hostile or that she was annoyed. she sent me a few more little messages later on, one asking what i wanted for christmas.

i just don't know how to read this. i'm thinking that maybe the only reason the separate insurance issue came up was because she had to renew at work. that's my hope at least. at the same time though, her first thought is to remove me from the plan. i just don't know what to think. i guess i need to just plan on it being over. otherwise, i will just keep getting crushed over and over.

[InAPickle]

Or maybe it was just time to renew and a decision had to come one way or another, nothing more, nothing less ???

[Bworl]

Punches in the gut are pretty frequent around here.


You need thick skin to fight this fight.


Was it really all that surprising? Did you think she wouldn't at least have the thought?


From a different perspective, could it be that she was wondering what YOUR take on the future was?



Stop trying to figure this out.


Don't you have work to do?



Blessings,

Bill

[tornadochaser]

My guess is that is due to an 'Open Enrollment' deadline at work.

I wouldn't read too much into it. Water off the back of a duck is the way to handle it.