Today, I went out and bought me a really pretty necklace I would have never dreamed of buying myself pre-seperation/divorce. The purchase is a celabration/present to me. I am ready to let go and begin fully detaching myself. The necklace is a reminder to me that I am a good, smart, attractive and intelligent women. I do deserve to be loved by the right man, whether that man is my husband reamins to be seen. I also bought some skinny jeans to wear with my high healed boots. I spring cleaned and re-arranged my frontroom and bedroom. This week I am going to our family friend's Christmas party. Next week I will be meeting some friends for lunch and am going snow boarding for the first time. Please pray I don't come back with broken bones. I am also looking for a better paying job. I am ready to begin taking care of myself.Each day I feel better and stronger. I love my husband and always will. I pray that God gives us what is best, because what we want is not what is always best.
M = 10.5 years H = 35 W = 39 D = 10 S = 12 SD = 19 Bomb Dropped = 10/27 EA = April
Hi Nina. From Colorado as well! Have fun snow boarding... Expect to be very sore the next day!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
My H introduced our D to the OW. They apparently "bumped into one another at the zoo." My D told me "Mommy guess what? I met ***** (OW) and she is nice." My heart was totally crushed. I don't understand how he could be so cruel. Our D told our son and when my H called, my son asked if he could meet her too. DB is becoming harder to do. I think I need to try something else.
This is like a freak'n soap opera. This is nuts. WTF!!!
He is being completely cold in person, but on the phone he is pretty nice. I am complete business on the phone, so perhaps he is reciprocating that in person. Maybe I ought to be a little more friendly on the phone (new strategy?). IDK. (as my son would say.)
I almost just want to give up. That is probably why my husband is behaving this way. He's just trying to break me, so I will agree with him and give into getting the big D. Who knows.
Despite all this I am wearing my smile and humming Christmas tunes to myself. I hosted my family's Christmas get together and enjoyed it. I cried a few times, but I pulled it together before everyone came. I am slowly but surely detaching.
Tonight is the Christmas party that my H and I were both invited to. I plan to go for a little while. Or maybe not. Any suggestions?
M = 10.5 years H = 35 W = 39 D = 10 S = 12 SD = 19 Bomb Dropped = 10/27 EA = April
I do not have any suggestions. You will just need to research them and be sure to interiew them as well. There is a thread on this site on what to look for in a counselor. Still be very carefull. I did my research and visited with a MC who after only meeting with her twice had decided that I need to move on in and give up on my marriage. Although she said she was pro-marriage in the end her decision was too soon. I know it is a tricky situation when one spouse wants and D and the other doesn't, but it was just too early, emotions are high and no decision should be made in haste when you feel angry or upset; especeially life changing decisions such as D.
M = 10.5 years H = 35 W = 39 D = 10 S = 12 SD = 19 Bomb Dropped = 10/27 EA = April
Yeah, we tried counseling (I am still going) but she has filed for divorce and I really doubt that I could get her to go to anyone else but I am in the Tulsa area so I thought maybe TulsaTime would have a suggestion. Even if not for both of us to go to maybe someone that I could see.
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M 11/11/00 Bomb end of September 2010 Filed 11/9/10
I went Snowboarding and am so sore. I loved it! I woke up this morning and felt great even though I was sore. I believe that I am finally GAL. Met some friends today for lunch and had a few margaritas. Tonight I am going to a girl friends house to bring in the New Year. I am feeling quite happy about my activities over the last few weeks. Still keeping eyes on the Lord. I am no longer obsessing about my husband and can go through the day without feeling crappy. Of course that always changes when we (my H and I) talk. I will need to figure out how to relax prior to our meeting. The kids usually have news to bring to when they come back with can be a huge dip in my day.
I would like to continue hoping that my marriage will be saved, but feel happier in not expecting anything positive. I suppose detaching is working for me. I am still going to church and the OW is there too. DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA. Anyhow, we made eye contact.I think she may have been unconfortable. At least I know I was.
Anyhow, husband isn't attending church any longer; which is okay by me. I am praying for him and the OW, since physical violence is out of the question. I'm sure I'll get edited for that line. Anyhow, Praise God for my health, family and friends. Even if it dosen't work out in the end, I am finding my peace and happiness!
Que Sera sera.
M = 10.5 years H = 35 W = 39 D = 10 S = 12 SD = 19 Bomb Dropped = 10/27 EA = April
Good for you Nina! Have a Happy New Year! Here's hoping 2011 is much, much better than 2010 for all of us!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
