Just wondering how many of those WAS who continue in a relationship with the OM/OW actually end up staying in that relationship very long. We all know the relationships start off unhealthy b/c of the circumstances, so how many of them actually last a substantial amount of time?
M-32, WAH 32 D-7 months Bomb of PA 9/25 WAH left 10/24 D Filed by WAH
My H has been with his mistress for 3 years. They started officially living together a year ago but prior to that they spent most nights together anyhow (we are legally separated of course).
I think the shine is wearing off because (A) he took a job that has him traveling about 90% of the time and (B) he wants me back in his life. LOL! Right!
Some WAS will stay in a terrible "affair R" forever due to arrogance and pride. I know three people that had affairs IRL and all three are married to their affair partners now and all of them have been married for 10+ years.
Based on my own experience, the people I know IRL and the large "in person" divorce support group I have belonged to for 3 years (run by amazing family therapist) I don't think affairs (or R's born from affairs) die as often as people like to think.
Some WAS will stay in a terrible "affair R" forever due to arrogance and pride. I know three people that had affairs IRL and all three are married to their affair partners now and all of them have been married for 10+ years.
Are you saying the ones married for 10+ years have been there only due to arrogance and pride? (Those sentences may be unrelated observations, so I don't want to assume...!)
I think that people tend to forget about most of the affairs that go bust. There's no real significance to the failure of an affair in people's lives and nothing to remind anyone about the affair. However, when an affair turns into a long term marriage, well then you have a "successful" affair front and center where everyone can see it. The unsuccessful affairs just fade away. Most of the time we probably don't even know an "unsuccessful" affair occurred in the first place.
