My WAH spent the night Wednesday night and helped take care of the baby while I started cooking for Thanksgiving. He ate TG lunch with us and hung out for a bit before leaving to go out of state to his family. The whole even went fairly well, I think. He hugged me before going to bed on Wed night and thanked me for letting him come over and what not. He gave me a huge hug before he left yesterday and thanked me again. Then, a few hours after he left, the sent me a text that simply said, "Thanks for today." I know this is no way indicates or means that he is coming home anytime soon, if ever, but for those of you more experienced in this than I, what are your thoughts on this? Are these indications of positive change?
M-32, WAH 32 D-7 months Bomb of PA 9/25 WAH left 10/24 D Filed by WAH
Sounds like you're situation is a lot better the the ice cube I'm married to.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
Oh, Pickle, he's been an ice cube--believe me. But, since I've quit talking about the R--he has been better. The only major things I've been doing are no R talk and being attractive and happy when he's around--like I am okay with whatever happens b/c I'm strong and independent. I've limited my contact with him--mainly let him contact me first. So, no huge things, but maybe small things add up to big things....
M-32, WAH 32 D-7 months Bomb of PA 9/25 WAH left 10/24 D Filed by WAH
Where I come from, it is customary to not only say thank you, but to often follow up with a card in the mail for something a little more than ordinary (like a holiday).
Please do not get too caught up in the mind reading or signifigance of it. That will end up throwing you off of YOUR path.
Apparantly, he appreciated what you did for him.
Accept it and keep doing what you have been with no expectations.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
