If you are a WAW Allie, just know that your thoughts and perspective is GREATLY appreciated by many on this board. I think that is generally those of us who realize that we played a part, maybe even a huge part, in causing WAW to leave. Unfortunately, there are other LBS's who do not seem to believe that about themselves and blame the WAS completely. You are likely to get some criticism from those LBS's. PLEASE don't let that discourage you from continuing to post. I know that would really like to hear your perspective.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I am not sure my thoughts and perspective can help anyone right now. I am very lost and I am not even sure what is happening to me. what next, your story is very close to mine or I should say my H's, he had a full out panic attack a couple of years ago and had to go on drugs. Says he has been stressed out his entire life and that is the reason he treated me the way he did. I am the WAW or at least I am heading in that direction.
I am very sorry that you are going through this, I don't know your W, but I am 99% sure this was/is just as hard on her. I can't remember the last time I slept all night or even ate a real meal, I've lost something like 20 pounds and everyone is worried about me. I've been watching all the post on this site for a couple of weeks now and I am still not sure how I feel about it. It makes the person who wants out seem so awful and I am not sure that is really fair. I don't really like the term WAW, because I just didn't walk away, I lived through it for 18 years, I begged but he only heard and saw what he wanted to hear and see. I've finally had enough and now he wants to change. My question to him is why did he wait until I broke to do the right thing? Normal women don't just wake up one morning and say I don't love my H anymore, it takes time to fall out of love with someone. I think Sandy is right, you should back off. I am willing to bet your wife is just as lost as you are right now and she needs to find her way and you can't help her this is something she has to do on her own. You need to wait until she has found herself and is happy. Then if you really love her, try being her friend unconditionally and build from there. Just don't go into being her friend thinking that you will get something out of it, because she will spot that a mile away. Be real, go slow and remember she is hurting too.
