Short story: I had a meltdown this morning. I rather strongly told my H that I'm very unhappy that important promises have gone by the wayside. Part of it involved our lack of a sex life. H said he would get viagra today which I think would help me out. But when he called to say he was coming home he sounded terrible. Like I want him to be my sex slave or something. Guess the only thing to do is say lets wait until you are feeling better about this and apologize. Of course there is a long back story that right now I'm too exhausted to write.
me: 57 H: 54 M: 18 y Affair over on Dday: 6/99 Never split-up but it was a hard road D: 38 GD:18 I forget so I come back here I know these principles are the way to go which ever way it goes!
I'm sorry you are having this frustration right now. I see your posts from a few months ago, but it's kind of hard to walk you through this without knowing how the latest 'go 'rounds' have been going.
This is about the age where guys have a harder time, not only being frisky, but in general, getting enthusiastic.
What are your expectations?
Hang in there, it will be ok. sg
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Thanks sgctxok. We are actually both having trouble being even interested. I'm the one who wants us to get interested again and I was given several promises that never materialized. This is a well, well worn path of my husband's and nothing happens without me having a "meltdown". It's very painful and I feel like a shrew. So I give up until one day I realize I don't want to live like this and there's the meltdown. So we are both playing the avoidance game at the moment. It hurts.
me: 57 H: 54 M: 18 y Affair over on Dday: 6/99 Never split-up but it was a hard road D: 38 GD:18 I forget so I come back here I know these principles are the way to go which ever way it goes!
Well, why not take the focus off this. Why not work on other things like your friendship? What are the things you have going that are good? What do you like to do together?
If you are having trouble being interested in sex too, why is it important to force the issue?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
