Found this site a year ago after wife dropped the bomb. She is no longer in love with me but wants to live as roommates for the sake of our 3 children. Not sure how a loveless marriage would be in their best interest.
Over the past year I have been DBing based on Michele's books and the advice from those on the forums. I have worked on becoming a better person, father and husband. Wife recently told me that she can't go back and wants to continue as is. What approach do I take now? Was thinking about detaching from the Alien who has moved into my house. She has put up an emotional wall between us and does not want to have any involvement with me. She is always polite and nice but very cold. She also told me that my DBing just makes her feel guilty. She is all smiles and laughs with everyone except me.
This last year has been very painful and I am beginning to feel that I am now becoming a walk away spouse just like her as I start to put up my own fall to protect my feelings.
Were you the LD or HD partner? Is there another person involved?
I'm not quite in your wife's shoes... But it sounds like you need to work the program (GAL,etc.) but without mentioning it your wife... But for your own sake.
