rope drop and day to day existing

[Pensacolabroken]

With Rope Drop in your own home (when WAW refuses to leave) and I am GAL.. what is the recommended way to depart the home without using the WAW as a filter? Do I just leave without saying see you later? Do I say good bye? Do I just do what I do? please advise. The key is to not be cold but mysterious... help.

[gucci loafer]

I always find it fascinating to observe a BS try to be mysterious. The harder they seem to try to be mysterious the more obvious it becomes that they are TRYING to be mysterious. Of course it very seldom works and they then wonder why and go back to purusing and chasing...

Quit trying and start doing...

Study what the WAW does when checking out of a relationship and copy what they do. It certainly works for them. Take your wife for example..

Last week she told you she was going on a "girls night out" complete with a night stay away in a hotel on the beach. She even sent you pictures..

Do you remember how you FELL for it? And yet she is being mysterious right? You are still wonder about this "girls night out at the beach"...

So, did she leave the house and NOT tell you what she was doing? Did she just say good bye?

NO.. She told you a week in advance (set up her lie is more like it) that she was going... She was covering her tracks BEFORE she went. This is what the WAW does. They are NOT trying to be mysterious. They are actually trying NOT TO BE MYSTERIOUS. They are actually trying to get you to think they are being honest..

On the other hand, when a BS "tries" to be mysterious, they try the exact opposite things.. Instead of saying they are going on a "girls night out"... the BS tries to get the Wayward curious by saying.. "Oh I am going out with a "friend" hoping the WS will say "what friend? Is it a woman? who is she?" The BS then tries to keep being mysterious by saying things like " I don't ask you where you go".. etc etc etc..

THAT DOES NOT WORK.. STUDY THE WAYWARD behaviour if you want to learn HOW to be mysterious so that it WORKS...


Think about it.. You ARE trying to hard Pens. Trying way too hard...

[Pensacolabroken]

Gucci, thanks for the reality check what I need. I will not try so hard. I will think about how she checked out and how she did it. I set this dinner deal up a couple of days ago and the waw did ask where and who if it was female etc. I will start doing.

[Pensacolabroken]

I don't tell her anything about my dinner do I ?

[Pensacolabroken]

Gucci I will be the pupil if you will be the teacher. I need your help

[Pensacolabroken]

WAW was waiting for me when I came home. She went balistic on me for going on a 'date' with my old friend. Wanted to know where I went and what we did Not a date in any sense. And I don't owe her an explanation. She asked me if I was going to date now and were we a couple? Wtf! I told her I didn't plan on dating while living in the same house. But that time will come I also told her I might date but not at this point. she made it clear she doesn't want me and she wants a divorce. She then said turnabouts fairplay and she will start dating and she was re friending her EA OM. She then said she wanted me to date so I will leave her and move on? She is making no sense. Her mood was totalrage and she started bringing up everything I ever did and started spewing. I told her enough. I have given her everything she wanted and she is free to leave. I then said she needs to look in the mirror because I see vile vindictive cruel person. Not very appealing. I said I have given you everything you have asked for. So leave me alone.


Wow one minute questioing and jealous and the next wanting me in a relationship so I will leave her? Batsh_-t crazy?

[Pensacolabroken]

Same woman that told me in marriage counseling she wants a divorce and I said okay I give up I agree with you. Just yesterday and now this total bullcrap.

[Pensacolabroken]

Trying to. Understand the nature:
So she wants out and I agree
She won't go
She whines that she dropped her friend off fb she keeps bringing him up now
She denies her EA OM says only friends.
She has been caught in lies. Denies she continues to be with him.
I tell her I don't care what she does or where she goes.
She is pissed I go to dinner with an old friend. She compares that to her friend says I can't say anything about her friend?
She tells me she wanted me to be in a relationship so I will leave? Her actions make no sense
I tell her that is neccessary I am moving on and she is out of line,I have let her go and she replies "sounds good". This confuses me. I think she still deciding. I am moving on

[TimeHeals]

Trying to understand what?

What difference does it make. Let her blow off steam, but she's gotta move, right?

Peace and quiet will be nice.

let her go.

[Steve McQueen]

Your behavior is unbecoming.

the biggest mistake a man can make in these situations is to act out in needy, depressive emotions. it is a turn-off and further repels their wife.