If she's clinically depressed you can validate until the cows come home. She'll still be depressed. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. By that I mean, IT'S NOT ALWAYS OUR FAULT. If she is truly depressed, she needs to address that with a professional.
Pookie, ive done that. Ive asked what I can do to make her feel better. Ive said let me help you, you dont have to feel like this (meaning you dont have to live depressed). All she then says is, I dont need help, im fine. Part of me feels that she is depressed which I dont think I can pull her out of. Part of me feels that it might just be her way of being a WAS. Instead of being angry and vindictive, she might go the opposite of guilt and feeling bad about all of it, does that make sense? I just dont know which way to go on that one. Sandi, if you get a sec. id like your perspective on this.
It just seems like her wall she puts up. On one hand she talks about being down everyday and that she brings everyone in her life down. But when I say I can lead you out of this or you don't have to have these feelings she says I'm fine I don't need any help.
It just seems like her wall she puts up. On one hand she talks about being down everyday and that she brings everyone in her life down. But when I say I can lead you out of this or you don't have to have these feelings she says I'm fine I don't need any help.
She wants you to act. You can't talk her out of her feelings.
Your correct about that, but other then making me a better person, not getting angry, understanding her and being there for her I really don't know what else to do. She's really not comfortable hanging out at this point. So what actions might help me move forward?
