It sounds like you handled the whole situation from a healthy prospective. And it's good you're able to feel the hurt and understand where it's coming from. Just understanding where, how is huge! You're D and you will come out on top, just remember that!
Eric, this all breaks my heart, and I don't have kids, and I honestly never could relate to those people who did have kids until I started to read/post on these forums, but now I get it. This is so tough for all of us, but for those with kids, you are facing a more difficult struggle. I want to tell you that I have felt so much empowerment through things you have said to me about my situation, and I know you couldn't say those things if you were not a very strong and centered person yourself. I wish only the best for you; I know you're an amazing person and a wonderful father; and I pray that you find peace and love in your situation.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
Don't really know what to say except I am so sorry for all that you are going through. My kids are all grown, it's the little ones that ask questions, and their parents have to handle them. I know my granddaughter cried when told Papa wouldn't be living here anymore. Broke my heart for her. The older grands stay quiet, but you can see it in their eyes.
Your daughter sounds very intelligent, very thoughtful, and very sensitive. You sound as if you are putting the feelings of your children ahead of everything else, especially yours. Know that your children will always remember that. Who their Dad is, and how he has cared for them.
As Antonia says, you seem to be a wonderful father, and you will find peace. ((HUGS))
I'm not going to repeat all the stuff above, you are strong and you know you are.
It doesn't change the fact that this sucks. Period.
You are doing the best you can with a crappy situation, I know how long I tried to avoid having to talk to my kids.
I'm not going to fill you full of plaitudes like "they'll do ok if you do ok" ... blah, blah, blah.
I will remind you of this:
This sucks for as long as you let it. It can suck for a day, or a week, or a month, or a year, or a lifetime. Your choice. Only yours.
When you are ready, live your words. You can choose to see the silver linings and you can choose to show them to your children. Think about what your silver linings are ... think about how much you do still have ... think about everything you have to be grateful for.
New beginnings E ...
(((hugs))) T
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
I haven't ever posted to you but I do read your posts and know that you give of yourself tremendously. I just love how thoughtful your daughter is. The fact that she asked how you would afford two houses and whether you will have enough to eat just tore at my heart.
As you know, you are STILL blessed in so many ways. Nothing gets in the way of that.
Btw, that smirk? I think they hand it out with the MLC do-it- yourself kit. You do know that they have their own how-to guide, right?
