STBXW saw a different H than she saw in July. I am happier and a lot thinner and I looked and felt confident, poised and carried off strength...I survived or I'm surviving
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but not as confident in her actions
This all sound too fimiliar.
The reality of your life together is now on a few pieces of paper. Your W may now begin to see things differently.
And you are right~ It aint over till it's over. And even if it D occurs it's not completely over.
Good job remaining C, C and C.
I don't agree with the texting however. That wasn't very business like IMO.
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I am not sure if I can afford this dating stuff for too long...but it is fun!!!
I said the same thing to my friends too. Two dates @ $75 a pop twice a week. Four weeks in a month = $600 month, ouch.
W reaction to you being with OW.............priceless.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I contemplated not responding to the texts and I was on point when I needed to be, but since I have not seen her since July 4th and probably will not see her until March at the D proceedings I wanted to plant the seeds that were offered that I have moved on and will perfectly fine without her. She knew that she devastated me when she abruptly left.
I think I did pretty well. I arrived to the L office a few minutes early and chit chatted with the L. His last name is very similar to mine, so I told him that his name was spelled incorrectly and that he needed to hire a L to have it legally changed.
STBXW was late and in fact I saw her from the 2nd story window of the lawyers office as she was walking past. I opened the window and directed her to the proper entrance to office. Anyway, when I saw her there was no emotion from me (DETACHED!!!) she had gained some weight her hair was up and in a mess (she works nights now) so that could be the reason. Anyway, she took notice of my changes and told me that I looked great! And all I said was thanks...I probably should have returned the compliment, but it didn't dawn on me to, which is not natural for me.
As the L was filling out the paper work I tried to pepper in a few Cary Grantisms;example, L asked so you were M in Vegas? I replied yes and I lost the gamble. This made everyone smile and take the tension down a few notches.
As if on cue one of the ladies that I have been dating texted me arranging to meet me tonight (I honestly did not set this up). STBXW took notice and began leaning towards me to see what I was texting and to whom. I did not know if this was a good idea or not then I thought what would robx do. So as the L was working on the paperwork with stbxw I texted the lady back and we texted back and forth numerous times. I had this Cheshire cat smile on my face, which I could see was annoying stbxw. But I could not stop I was thinking how ironic this whole situation was.
Anyway, I we had already divided up our assest and liabilities so our D is simple so I will not see stbxw until March at the D proceedings. However, I will still keep DB'ing because as they say it is not over until it is over. STBXW saw a different H than she saw in July. I am happier and a lot thinner and I looked and felt confident, poised and carried off strength...I survived or I'm surviving. I saw a different W than I saw in July a little disheveled probably because she was getting ready for work, but not as confident in her actions. Anyway, I have a date tonight and my dance card is full every night this week...I am not sure if I can afford this dating stuff for too long...but it is fun!!!
She said you looked great, and you could have said, "Thanks! Wow, have you put on weight?"
LOL!! JK, sort of.
Guys, take it from me, NOTHING will shake a woman's confidence more than saying, "Have you put on weight?"
I know. She is really into her looks and would always be defensive if I commented on someone else even if I was agreeing with her comment regarding someone else. She would say, "my eyes were for her only". I just felt that this meeting was more of an annoyance than anything else...sort of weird...I guess.
That is not very Cary Grant of you to say. I did think that, but I was trying to be good except the texts...I just could not pass up the opportunity. And it did annoy her. She kept looking over my way and I never made eye contact except for the innitial greeting.
If I were her, I'd be miffed about the texting, but sounds like you are well and truly detached. As I read your account ,I felt sorry for her, but she's the one who left and wouldn't contact you. Wait and see. Take care. Aideen.
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
Good job.