is walk away spouse happy or guilty?

[rysmom]

Does anyone that has had their spouse return home know if the spouse was happy while they were involved in the affair or if they felt a lot of guilt?

[MrBond]

rysmom,

I just wanted to just add in a thought here. You've been at this for over 4 years and are asking the same questions since Day 1. I really am concerned about you. I hope you are still seeing the C so that you can start getting some peace for you and your son.

For yours and your son's sake, you've got to detach. Protect your finances and yourself first and LIVE.

[MrBond]

BTW, if you really want to get into the mind of an adulterous spouse, go to survivinginfidelity.com and you can read some of the responses there.

[Frank V]

There's a forum on ivillage FOR OtherPerson's.. All women engaged in infidelity with married men... at least I never saw a single male post yet.

Pretty sad forum if you ask me.. very catty.. women criticizing everything and anything.. very angry...

Probably not what you were looking for anyways...

I think when you are experiencing and pursuing any addiction you may feel high or feel a crash and need a new fix, but I can't imagine any of that cycle would be called "happy".. though the high part of the cycle may appear as if one is happy... its just a high of deluded excitement.. Its not the contentment bought on by hard work and sacrificial love.. its a selfish deluded excitement...

Short term stuff... From what I have read you can't find happiness while lying and hurting people... Does anyone actually think you CAN?