As part of my ceaseless preparatory work for my return to the states I want to get some ideas about how to deal with workplace affairs.
Here is the sitch. W is having an A with her former boss. They now report to the same manager. I must quit my job to return to the states and begin anew. She will support me financially through this regardless of how we go forward. I want to reconcile and I think there is a reasonable chance this will happen.
Rule #1 of affair busting seems to be end all contact. In my sitch this can’t happen in the short term. We can’t afford it. Once I get a job, she can try to find a new one, but until then I’m looking for ideas as to how to nip the affair in the bud?
We’ve talked about going to HR or their common boss to separate them as much as possible, but I don’t think our R is strong enough yet to take that risk. W will likely agree to full disclosure. Email password, cell phone records, texts etc. She gets it.
Anyone with experience in this?
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
