Jin, I actually came back to check on you. I hope you check back in. I'm really proud of you - of us! We are too good to put up with what we've been put through. I agree with what the folks are saying about kiddos. It's the only thing I worry about now. However, I know that I will be able to show him a better life and someday he will know how hard I fought against this person who I am convinced will become his step mom.
You amazed and inspired me! I'll check back in a few to see if you post to this, but I'd love to exchange email addresses to continue the support.
Strong, beautiful, intelligent, loving, faithful, moral....these are words you should always remember describe you! You and Allen will forever be etched in my memory as people I never met that got me through one of the most difficult times of my life.
(oddly enough, I recently read some dreams I recorded during those time in my journal. I don't even sort of remember writing it or having those dreams. That's when I realized how distraught I really had been and was grateful for how far I'd come)
Take care of you! Thank you!
Me:38 H: 45 OW:34 S:4 Bonus S: 12 and 16 2nd M for both Together 12 yrs M: 6 EA suspected: 5/10 confirmed: 7/2/10 Separated: 8/12/10
Yes, I'm checking in. I am doing amazingly well. I feel like I woke up one day and the world was new. I feel like me again. I am no longer under the fog of a controlling man who did all he could to tear me away from my friends and do everything for him.
LH - I'll see if I can message you. We should keep in touch.
H32 Me32 together:10 M:5 No kids ILYBINILWY 7/28/10 OW found 8/15 A exposed 8/31 I Move 9/3 Dark 10/1
Same here Jin... LH is spot on... Live the best life you can... Nothing's keeping you from that!
I hope to see you both on MA sometime soon, familiar faces there...
LH keep up the battle until marriage isn't a want or need for you but a choice... Once you choose to be married or divorced that's when the fight is downhill.
Keep up the good work... I hope to see you and Jin in MA.. make your coach proud!
First of all - Coach? that brought a tear to my eye! Tear of gratitude! I know that code! What is MA? I think I missed something.
Jin,
since it's not my real name I will give you my yahoo address and hope I don't get in trouble on here for it. It's KayHoyer@yahoo.com (seriously not my first or last name - it's a long story)
I so know what you mean by waking up one day. Don't you just feel happy to be alive? Don't you feel good in your own skin. Don't you finally see how truly wonderful you are as a person! The things they did to tear us down wer so gradual that we didn't see it until it was too late. We fought, Jin! We fought hard! We can rest at night knowing that we did!
I admire the people that can fight for years, but I just can't/won't be one of them.
Me:38 H: 45 OW:34 S:4 Bonus S: 12 and 16 2nd M for both Together 12 yrs M: 6 EA suspected: 5/10 confirmed: 7/2/10 Separated: 8/12/10
Yes, I'm checking in. I am doing amazingly well. I feel like I woke up one day and the world was new. I feel like me again. I am no longer under the fog of a controlling man who did all he could to tear me away from my friends and do everything for him.
LH - I'll see if I can message you. We should keep in touch.
Jin, I am so proud of you. I know I have seen glimmers of that feeling but I'm still so tied to H through our son I can look foward to the day I feel as strong as you - for good! Your feelings are telling you the truth - you are doing the right thing. I'm thoroughly happy for you and let me know if you would like to keep in touch via email as well, as I know I would.
