Yep. Sorry to hear this. Keep a journal of everything - especially the times she is being unreasonable. Not trying to help you look forward to divorce, just protect yourself.
Mother-in-law actually text me this evening trying to say something nice to me unrelated to my R. Gimme a break. I didn't respond, didn't feel any need to.
I'm better when I have D3 instead of in the home alone staring at the walls. Its hard to GAL sometimes when all my friends and family have their own families to take care of. Do I really want to bother them with my freakin' sorrows - no.
Look, post here when you feel necessary and need an outlet. We're still reading.
Yup, I agree with KEM. I post all the time in my journal even though I don't often get a response. It's a great place to just get things out of your head.
New thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2112303
Now my wife is sending emails saying my 5 y/o told her twice I let him and the 2 y/o out alone and the little guy almost got hit by a car. She said I make the kids uncomfortable because I am mean to her....and then went on about how her and the kids are happier...
Not that anyone cares, but I can assure anyone reading, this stuff didn't happen. If it's not bad enough they are gone, now she starts this nonsense.
Why??
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Sorry that your wife is being so unreasonable. Hope she backs off soon.
Thank you so much Mystik, you know I am pulling for you also.
All the nasty things she has been saying, I dropped my boys off today and she threw a box of cupcakes at me, she said she thought of me when she saw them....lol. I guess that makes all she said better huh?
I am not looking forward to the holidays, it's really starting to hit me this weekend when the boys and I were out, and all the Christmas stuff was there.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
I'm so sorry for your loss of your family member. You have quite a lot on your plate. I'm sorry too for your wife's behavior right now.
It isn't hopeless....these situations are turned around all the time. As hard as it may be to imagine that.....let yourself do it. If she were really mentally ill, got amnesia, and pretended to be someone else for awhile, and then were hit over the head and snapped back to the person you've always loved....you'd probably forgive her and move on, right? Often a MLC affects people like that. This may not be what she's going through, but it may be.
If it were, what you would need is a LOT of patience, and a 'bit' of detachment. And a heart that would let you pick up signs of a change back. It can go quickly, and it can take a while...sometimes 6m-2yrs.
That's a lot of wear and tear on your heart.....but if you knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel, you could do it, right?
Give yourself a break right now....you have a lot on you. Don't let her behaviors etch too much into your heart right now. She's just not well.
I'm so sorry for your loss of your family member. You have quite a lot on your plate. I'm sorry too for your wife's behavior right now.
It isn't hopeless....these situations are turned around all the time. As hard as it may be to imagine that.....let yourself do it. If she were really mentally ill, got amnesia, and pretended to be someone else for awhile, and then were hit over the head and snapped back to the person you've always loved....you'd probably forgive her and move on, right? Often a MLC affects people like that. This may not be what she's going through, but it may be.
If it were, what you would need is a LOT of patience, and a 'bit' of detachment. And a heart that would let you pick up signs of a change back. It can go quickly, and it can take a while...sometimes 6m-2yrs.
That's a lot of wear and tear on your heart.....but if you knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel, you could do it, right?
Give yourself a break right now....you have a lot on you. Don't let her behaviors etch too much into your heart right now. She's just not well.
Thank you so much for the post,
If I saw any light at the end of the tunnel, yes I could do it, I would do anything for my wife and family.
What she is doing is things a person who is really done with a marriage does.
I just wish she would see what this is doing to our boys, and me.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
I had the most heartwrenching thing happen tonight....
My wife wanted to go out, so she asked if I could watch the boys, and of course I jumped at it.
We went out to eat, we stopped at the grocery store, picked them up some stuff for little boys, then came home to my house to play.
I was reading the boys a story and didn't hear the wife beep, so she came to the door and I told her to come in....and she acted like I was harvesting a plague in the house we lived in for 10 years....but she came in.
She asked the boys to get ready and my 5 year old started to cry, he wanted her to stay and goto sleep with him...."In his house"
He cried and begged and pleaded for us to stay together....I felt my heart break.
My wife coldly said he was tired, and asked what lines am I feeding to these kids (which was nothing, I enjoy my time with them, and don't discuss her).
She showed no emotion, none, she just was cold and wanted to leave.
My kids are heartbroke, I am heartbroke....and her? Nothing....
*sigh*
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
