Still feeling terrible today, I just want this funeral to be over tomorrow.
2 months ago, I bought the boys and I tickets to see Toy Story on Ice, we talk about it all the time.....with my funeral tomorrow, my wife is taking them instead of me. I tried to change them for another show, and they wouldn't.
It's been along time since I talked to her, no reason to, she has Mr. Wonderful now......so why do I feel like crap and this just happened?
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Doesn't matter how long its been. It still feels like yesterday W was here and we were enjoying time together with D3. Why do we keep replaying images of good times, yet, all they can remember are bad? It feels like it just happened b/c we've been living in a fog since it happened.
Doesn't matter how long its been. It still feels like yesterday W was here and we were enjoying time together with D3. Why do we keep replaying images of good times, yet, all they can remember are bad? It feels like it just happened b/c we've been living in a fog since it happened.
you are so right with that. I was talking to someone today that wanted to take their boy to "A day out with Thomas", my boys love trains....all I can think about was how much fun we had, how excited the boys were to see Thomas the Train.
I had an instance last week where my little boy came running to me, jumped up and screamed I missed you Daddy....broke my heart....she just ignored it.
They are torturing their kids also, and refuse to see it.
My wife clearly thinks POSOM is the answer, not working this out.
SIGH
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
.....and trust me, there is nothing slowing this down, she is done, and has shown nothing of ever changing her mind.
All I do is worry about what this will do to my kids.
She came from this type of environment, and her brothers are jack offs, none of the posse has ever not married down the 2nd time, some are on the 3rd marriage now.
I did find someone in my family remarried, my Great Grandmothers husband was killed in the mines, she remarried! I'm forming my own Posse now
I am not wired to be a part-time Dad....I'm not!
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Doesn't matter to them how much the kids miss us. They are in a selfish mode. They are absolutely torturing the kids and think nothing of it. No use trying to convince otherwise. W's sis told me (when she contacted me to complain about me), "We (W and siblings) were happy and our parents were happier once they got divorced. We were all much better off." That's just it, they learned the behaviour as a good thing to do.
Hello! Has she looked at her family? They all run away from their M's. And they aren't better off - its a farce.
She's helping W revise our history.
W was probably just staying close with me after she left to keep me as an option in case something else didn't come along. Who knows? But as soon as something else showed interest there she went. Thing is he's divorced from infidelity in his first M. And this is who she wants to trust?
Glad you found your posse. I'm still looking for mine.
You know the feeling - how you constantly feel like your going to wake up and realize it was all a nightmare. Then you break down again when you realize its not. Just got to keep trying everyday to move on and GAL. Keep a photo of D3 in front of all the time to know why I do it.
Doesn't matter to them how much the kids miss us. They are in a selfish mode. They are absolutely torturing the kids and think nothing of it. No use trying to convince otherwise. W's sis told me (when she contacted me to complain about me), "We (W and siblings) were happy and our parents were happier once they got divorced. We were all much better off." That's just it, they learned the behaviour as a good thing to do.
Hello! Has she looked at her family? They all run away from their M's. And they aren't better off - its a farce.
She's helping W revise our history.
W was probably just staying close with me after she left to keep me as an option in case something else didn't come along. Who knows? But as soon as something else showed interest there she went. Thing is he's divorced from infidelity in his first M. And this is who she wants to trust?
Glad you found your posse. I'm still looking for mine.
You know the feeling - how you constantly feel like your going to wake up and realize it was all a nightmare. Then you break down again when you realize its not. Just got to keep trying everyday to move on and GAL. Keep a photo of D3 in front of all the time to know why I do it.
It makes no difference what the kids want and need, none! There is no way the kids are happier, none. I dread Christmas morning, dread it. My kids hate their new schools, they hate being apart. Their divorce posse is the one saying, hey look, my kid is great....while he is suspended from school again.
I know what you mean about this being a dream, I am sure it has to be. I had nightmares where my boys were crying, I literally have had to sit up and gain composure again.
I light 2 candles everynight, makes me feel better usually.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
KEM, not to long ago, when I was dropping them off, and the 2 year old wouldn't let go off me, I did say "The only you care about is you and your ego". It was the wrong thing to say, but I have no hope to reconsile, and I was hoping she would think a little.....made no difference, but I felt better.
I honestly worry all the time about what this will do to them, I'm the only one though. Guess she figures the other guy will love them more.......right.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
I had my funeral this morning, this was supposed to be my weekend with the boys. I had tickets for Toy Story on Ice with them.....so my wife took them.
She was supposed to text on the way home, so I could get them for the rest of the weekend.
Nothing, so I send a text 2 hours after they should have been home, nothing, waited another hour....texted....nothing.
So I called, she answered....I asked calmly where I could meet the boys at, and why she didn't answer.....
Her response, I don't have to answer to you.....WTF? Seriously, my kids, my weekend....
Are you kidding me? What the he$l is wrong with this woman?
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
