I was just wondering how many of us LBS's are coping with a WAW who wants to be on their own. Do they ever sort themselves out? No signs of any OM on the horizon. I am in NC at the moment, trying LRT. After spending the past two months thinking about what I want and who I am, I am wondering if I was in love with the idea of marriage and not necessarily with my wife. Yes, I know it's a funny thing to say but our minds are active all the time, and random thoughts always pop up.
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2074259#Post2074259 M:64 W:45 Married: 08/07/2000 No children Bomb drop:05/04/2010 Moved out:05/04/2010
It's a nice way of saying "I dont want to be with you..."
The part that they dont know about which is left off is "I dont want to be with you..... UNTIL YOU GIVE ME SPACE, TIME TO BREATH, BECOME ATTRACTIVE TO ME AGAIN, CONVINCE ME THAT I'M MISSING OUT IN NOT SHARING MY LIFE WITH YOU....
All YOU can do is WORK on YOU. Become the best YOU YOU can be. Make them want to share their life with YOU.
I am taking some time to decide what I want out of life. I seem to have spent all of my life pleasing partners and not pleasing myself. I have to decide what I wantm out of life, it's not easy.
I am recovering well from my illness, though physical excercise is hard. I am taking good care of my self and grooming, and socialising. I am decorating and renovating the house.
I am doing what I want to do, in a constructive manner. I am repairing myself mentally after a stressfull two years with illness and wife leaving.
I am not talking to my wife at the moment, for three weeks (my choice), she only wants to talk about financial settlement and I think it is too early for that.
I am not concerned with what my wife is doing, I am just letting her get on with what she wants to do, to be alone. I am trying hard to be unpredictable, or doing 180 from what she would expect me to do normally.
I am prepared to end the marriage in divorce if I have to, though I choose to remain married.
She took her wedding ring off after five weeks away, I took mine off last friday; symbolic I know but it was hard for me.
I am doing all I can think of at the moment to let her go, and find her own way out of this. I have the feeling now that if she wants to come back or start reconnecting, the door is open a little, but I will decide if she can come in.
Of course any suggestions are welcome.
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2074259#Post2074259 M:64 W:45 Married: 08/07/2000 No children Bomb drop:05/04/2010 Moved out:05/04/2010
am taking some time to decide what I want out of life. I seem to have spent all of my life pleasing partners and not pleasing myself. I have to decide what I wantm out of life, it's not easy.
I think it is deceptively easy once you just decide to enjoy life.
You're worried about the future, you are concerned about the past.
I just ate a protein bar and drank a diet mountain dew code red, and they were wonderful. It's hot outside, but the air conditioning has a nice cool breeze circulating in here. My dogs are happy, I am happy, it's all good.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Thanks for all your comments, I will take them on board. It's time for bed , it's 1.05am in France, goodnight and thank you.
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2074259#Post2074259 M:64 W:45 Married: 08/07/2000 No children Bomb drop:05/04/2010 Moved out:05/04/2010
My waw said she wanted to be alone. She is having mupital affairs.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
I was just wondering how many of us LBS's are coping with a WAW who wants to be on their own. Do they ever sort themselves out? No signs of any OM on the horizon. I am in NC at the moment, trying LRT. After spending the past two months thinking about what I want and who I am, I am wondering if I was in love with the idea of marriage and not necessarily with my wife. Yes, I know it's a funny thing to say but our minds are active all the time, and random thoughts always pop up.
The title of your post is EXACTLY the same as my original. My sitch began here on these boards with this email...
"Look im just done dont want to be with anyone at all...dont want to be married anymore as well. i understand that i may not have given you a fair chance and im sorry. but i just want to move on with myself and be alone. and yeah my track record does suck. sure but i just dont want it anymore."
2 Months later, I found that she's been cheating on me for a year and full of out right lies. DO NOT RULE OUT OM.
I was just wondering how many of us LBS's are coping with a WAW who wants to be on their own. Do they ever sort themselves out? No signs of any OM on the horizon. I am in NC at the moment, trying LRT. After spending the past two months thinking about what I want and who I am, I am wondering if I was in love with the idea of marriage and not necessarily with my wife. Yes, I know it's a funny thing to say but our minds are active all the time, and random thoughts always pop up.
The title of your post is EXACTLY the same as my original. My sitch began here on these boards with this email...
"Look im just done dont want to be with anyone at all...dont want to be married anymore as well. i understand that i may not have given you a fair chance and im sorry. but i just want to move on with myself and be alone. and yeah my track record does suck. sure but i just dont want it anymore."
2 Months later, I found that she's been cheating on me for a year and full of out right lies. DO NOT RULE OUT OM.
