I absolutely want to get married again. Just not for a long time...
I have gotten to know myself better than I have in years through this process. I can see looking back how I compromised myself, my values, my plans in order to keep my husband after his first affair 8 years ago. And, look where that got me?
So now that I am reconnecting with myself, I want to share this me, this real me, with my future mate. And I won't settle in a number of areas. Not saying I am looking for perfection, but I know a red flag when I see one, now that the blinders are off.
So at this point, it's verrry casual, sporadic dating for me. Eventually, one of those guys, either someone I have already met or someone I will meet, will turn into something more. I'll know it when I see it.
I love having a "partner in crime", someone to have the fun with...and what I miss from being married is having those common stories and inside jokes. Someday, I will have those again with someone new. So, yeah, I still believe in marriage. I just need to make sure that the next guy I marry, believes in it as much as I do...
Wow, KerryK, a Willie Pep reference. I'm a big boxing fan.
When we split up, my daughters asked me if I'd get married again. I said "yes, I like being married."
The longer I'm alone, the more I think about the complications of getting married again while the girls are still young.
If that person had kids, that'd be an awful lot of juggling. And then there's the trouble of who wins out when your girls want to do one thing and your new spouse wants to do another.
So hard, so hard.
And then the finances. It's going to take me five years to dig myself out of this mess. It's going to be very hard to trust someone again with my future.
But I do hope to get married again. I'm just going to be very, very, very sure this time and not let me ego or hormones rule the day.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
Maybe with a prenup - I know now that everyone is capable of anything. Innocence lost, along with the naivete. I am (hopefully) a recovered codependent.
I'm afraid marriage just doesn't like me. Tried twice and got burned badly both times. Perhaps after a few years I'll just check myself into one of those "Retirement Homes" where the female/male ratio is 8 to 1.
My first wife was 45 when she divorced me for fabricated reasons on the divorce papers. My present wife is 46, am I missing something here?
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2074259#Post2074259 M:64 W:45 Married: 08/07/2000 No children Bomb drop:05/04/2010 Moved out:05/04/2010
I wonder if I will need viagra when the time comes for me to live in one of those places.
Stay out of them! The average lifespan for folks in a retirement home is just over one year.
Which reminds me, they are building a new one out by my parents' house... right next to a funeral parlor and cemetary. I guess they need to put a sidewalk joining them to save on ambulance costs.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-