I started here then moved to Divorced But Not Done now I find myself back here and hopefully Puppy Dog, Allen, or Sandi can chime in.
STBXWW in EA since January...exposed to OMW, OM family & friends, WW friends and family. Several tense moments culminating in the POSOM calling the police on me for "threatening Him" by telling him to stop talking to my wife (Twilight Zone anyone?). I digress...STBXWW is in an apt and I'm with staying with family...DD's split time at both locations.
I'm GALing, Holding onto My N.U.T.S., No More Mr. Nice Guy, setting boundaries, etc.
Now onto the current events:
OK...my head is spinning and I have to get this out so I apologize in advance if my stream of consciousness is disjointed.
Just as the script reads, STBXWW discovered that POSOM is a psycho that was using her...keep in mind this was an EA only. He started threatening her saying he would make her life miserable, that he knows people and could get me fired, etc. She has ended contact with him...deleted him from her contacts.
STBXWW and I had a wonderful weekend both with and without our DD's. Spent the night together and ended up ML...she initiated while I was rubbing her back.
We had a nice discussion earlier that evening and I told her to just let it all out. I won't go into the details of what happened between STBXWW and POSOM but STBXWW reluctantly did something out of the kindness of her heart. I just kept telling her "I understand your feelings, they're yours and I'm not going to try to talk you out of them".
This was the first time since this all went down that STBXWW has shown genuine remorse. She told me that I was right about POSOM and even quoted a truth dart...thanks Puppy Dog!
The only thing I could do was to just hold her, comfort her, keep her safe, and just let her cry. She said she was afraid that I would hate her and asked a few times why I didn't hate her and why I wasn't angry with her. She said she was scared of everything and that she is extremely fragile.
STBXWW said she misses my back rubs and that I give the best back rubs.
Now I'm not saying that we are now going to start piecing and working on our R, but these developments are huge.
So I now find myself in uncharted waters...for me at least
Last edited by loweinsd51; 09/07/1006:10 PM.
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
WAW confirmed that her and OM were physical while we were separated going into mediation. Sucks and feeling really low but I can't say that I would've turned down sex during the separation period. Moving on...WAW has agreed to piece our marriage back together.
OM is dealing drugs and threatened WAW...of course WAW wants nothing to do with POSOM. What a loser
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
