Usually their flirting and 'nice' behavior is to keep you as plan B while she waits for her Mr. plan A to come along. Don't even give her the slightest hope that she could always come back to you.
How do you detach? I don't know if I have a concrete answer but most people say you fake it till you make it. Build some structure around your life so you have things to do throughout the day...almost like a routine. After a while you'll get comfortable in it. Do some fun things for yourself. Join meetup.com and go play tennis, golf or whatever you're into. It takes time but at least you seem to be ahead of the game than most of us when we were there.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I honestly think it is a bit of both. We need to be "friends" so she can see what I have done in the relationship and have accepted what she did was fair and acceptable.
The flirting thing totally messes with your head. I have no interest in it as soon as I let my anger wall down to her it started. I may just put it back up until she "gets it".
Also I think I would be more like plan C as I heard there may or may not already be a plan B. I think she kinda gets off thinking that I may be here crying and moaning that she is gone.
I had a great summer with the kids we went out and did a lot of stuff. I am a teacher so I had the whole summer off.
Honestly after I would drop them off I would kind of hole up in the house. I felt like I just needed the time alone. Now I am going back to work and it's time to socialize and get out more.
Neighbours birthday party on Sunday, there should be lots of people there so I am looking forward to it.
I need to make some friends in this town. It is quiet a small town so really there isn't all that much to do sometimes.
I am thinking badminton or volley ball at the rec center this fall.
At least that would be a start to meeting some new people.
