Sorry I wasn't crazy about the movie maybe because it had too many parallels to my real life. My WAW was basically Liz in the movie with the exception that she cheated on me prior to walking away from the marriage and I wasn't nonattentive to her needs she just wasn't interested in being married to me any longer.
Maybe I missed the main message of the film of a woman finding herself because I was too absorbed with seeing Liz basically giving up on her marriage because "she didn't like being married." Yes her husband was inattentive and non-responsive to her needs, but I didn't see any justification for her packing up and leaving. Liz would have been better off if she had gone to Italy, India, and Bali before she entered into what is supposed to be a lifelong commitment to someone. Sorry - off my soapbox now.
Can I just have one of the hot men fed-exed to my house??
At your service!
What's your address??? HAHA
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All- PLEASE read the book. It is SO much better than the movie, which is actually sort of antithetical to the spirit of the book. The book is about spirituality. The movie is about romance. The book helped me tremendously earlier in my separation (even though I was angry at the main character at the beginning). Just saw the movie, and yes, the men were gorgeous, but it gives the message that being in a relationship is what brings happiness. Totally wrong. Here's a fave quote from the book:
"When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings." — Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)
Yes her husband was inattentive and non-responsive to her needs, but I didn't see any justification for her packing up and leaving.
I believe, in the book, she actually doesn't get into 'why' she left the M.
I haven't seen the movie and the book was good, as a summer read, but slightly contrived. I think one got the public, saleable version of her life at that time. I thought the part in India was the best.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Yes, she just says, "I don't want to be married anymore. I don't want to live in this big house. I don't want to have a baby. ... Much of it had to do with my problems, but a good portion of or troubles were related to his issues as well. ... But I don't think it's appropriate to discuss his issues in my book." Though, of course, "Then there was David--the guy I fell in love with as I was taking leave of my marriage."
Though you do feel sorry for the poor guy by the final time she's going on about how much AGONY she still feels from her marriage. And apparently he's now writing a book putting his own story forward.
Can I just have one of the hot men fed-exed to my house??
At your service!
What's your address??? HAHA
Small Town, Iowa, USA. Specific enough??
I like that last part, about not using someone else as a scratching post. After a 2 1/2 year dry spell, some times I just really wish I had someone there to be affectionate with. I don't even mean sex, not yet anyway. Just someone to hold, kiss, etc. However I would not want to 'use' anybody to scratch an itch. Of course, it the person didn't mind, that's a different story!
Slow and steady, figure out what I need to do to make my life better as I am. Then, when I feel like I am ready, look for someone to share in the adventure.
