Wow, I'm not even sure. I would be totally disgusted if her H was treating her this way. But, it's so hard. When there is a young innocent child in the middle - everything has such a stronger impact.
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
Have you established a timeline of how long the offer will be extended to him? IMO I would keep it short
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I agree with CG here, keep it short. Whatever time line you get him, he will take it to the very last minute to decide. Can you wait a week, a day?
It's up to you.
Another thought is why go file for a legal separation? Shouldn't you just go straight for D?
Decide what's best for courts and DD, envision your goals and make them happen.
Hugs
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
PMA, honestly, I'm not really sure. I'd like to say I would tell her to divorce him and move on, but I don't know if that's what I would do. I hate divorce. I hate what it does to a family. But if she were in my shoes, I would also hate that she would be betrayed and disrespected by her H. I don't have the right answer. No matter what choice was made, it would be extremely painful.
Right gr8, he's going to take as long as I will give him and I'm not willing to give him much time.
I made the choice that I would file for a legal separation bc that's what I'm comfortable doing right now. I know it might not make sense to others, but in my heart that is the choice that I'm okay with and at peace with. I don't feel the same about filing for a divorce. That might change, but that's how I'm feeling now.
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
I never heard of that before until then. It is a contract drawn up stating the whole case if you happen to D. It may been a tool worth investigating.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
