Wife states she is not in love with me anymore!

[pinhead]

You said that you had confirmed an EA. Until that's over with, you're just spinning your wheels. There's a lively thread over in Infidelity on gathering intelligence.

[HopelessInLove]

Thanks Pinhead, some great ideas.
I trust her though. I am done spying on her, that is her choice. If I am wrong she may just test the grass on the otherside, it may be the only way she would come back to me.

[dgtal]

Does your wife work?
Does she go out too often?
Is she dressing differently?
Is she buying candy mints (Altoids, mentos, etc)
Does she drive?

I trust my wife, but I always verify, thats why she's driving around with a GPS hiden in her car. Untrusting your spouse is not a reason for D. My wife dressed very different, too sexy to go grocery shopping and in addition she started buying Altoids, and hide some country music CD in her car (she never liked that kind of music). Watch out

[HopelessInLove]

Well, The saga continues.

I have been feeling better how the interactions have been with the W and I. She seemed to be more receptive to talking to me, and was asking me questions about me. Though she is very shut off about things with herself.

This morning, I showed up to pick up the kids a couple min early. They were not ready yet. I helped myself to coffee, then decided to go and use mouthwash. And saw a tracphone sitting on the bathroom counter.

I guess I need to go back to thinking she is cheating on me. I need advice? Do I go to infidelity thread?

How do I deal? Do I confront again?
I was told before not to be an option. DO I go dark?

Yesterday coach talked about how I am doing well with getting her to break down the wall a little by her actions. And things seem to be warming a little. Maybe she is warming because I am being nice and she has had guilt for her actions but now thinks I am okay with how things between us are unfolding.

[gutwrenching]

What did you say would happen if she continued contact with OM? That's what you need to do...

[HopelessInLove]

No I never established any perameters of how I would handle this? I guess I was to trusting.

What can be done now?

Do I accuse her? Do I ask her point blank are you still talk with someone?