Our marriage has been up and down, like all marriages, but we've been in a "down mode" for about 6 years. I wanted more attention; he wanted to just cruise through marriage. We even presented talks at pre-marriage week-ends for engaged couples, but I finally refused to do that anymore because I felt like such a hypocrite. Long story short; H's family business went bankrupt, taking $46,000+ of our savings with it, was bought out, then H was fired in Jan. '08. He found new job 3 months later, but is not happy with it. I felt that he chose his parents/business over kids and me while he feels differently. I had been talking about separating for 2 years; he refused until March, when he moved to parents' house. In April, I found out about OW. I worked on my anger/bitterness/etc. from March onward and let him know recently that I would like to reconcile. He keeps saying no and talks about filing for divorce, but hasn't actually done it. Funny thing is, I still manage all family finances and he still maintains the house. Family and friends are divided on chances of us reconciling. I go back and forth between wanting resolution one way or the other and being patient while waiting for H to do something. Advice, tips, support???
Me 47 H 48 Married 25 years Separated 3-13-2010 H involved w/OW 4 kids (1 still at home) Seeking reconcilation
I believe so. He claims they're just friends, but that's some friend if he talks to her for 1 hour + each day. (She lives 2 hours away, but he's visited her at least 5 times since November 2009.) I'm trying to take the high road and stay hopeful, but it's getting tougher. I'm trying to love him anyway, but it's getting hard to do that.
Me 47 H 48 Married 25 years Separated 3-13-2010 H involved w/OW 4 kids (1 still at home) Seeking reconcilation
