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Don't overthink it. You can do, "OK, you want a divorce" and just repeat it back to him if nothing else works for you.

I like, "I see" too.


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I suppose you could just send 'Your choice, not mine', and wait.


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I replied and said "I see". I feel rather unprepared for what might be coming now... I probably should approach it with an open mind, but I'd like to know what to do if the carpet gets pulled out from under my feet.


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I replied and said "I see". I feel rather unprepared for what might be coming now... I probably should approach it with an open mind, but I'd like to know what to do if the carpet gets pulled out from under my feet.


So far... you have been doing the right things. You haven't been begging, pleading, and so on. You aren't arguing. You are doing GAL stuff and working on yourself.


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Did you say anything beyond "I see?"
Maybe you could say "Please contact me to discuss this further."

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No, I just said that. Supposing that I'd ask him to contact me to discuss further, and supposing he would call - what would I tell him then?


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My opinion? He's just blowing steam. No response required.

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No, I just said that. Supposing that I'd ask him to contact me to discuss further, and supposing he would call - what would I tell him then?


I figure you acknowledged the ball was in his court. I'd wait a bit to see what goes on next. He's way away, so it's not like you have to endure his presence in all of this (one small thing to be thankful for however small it is).

I bet he didn't expect you not to argue with him about it. Now, let's see how well he has thought this through. If he doesn't say much within a week, then he hasn't planned it out.

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No, I just said that. Supposing that I'd ask him to contact me to discuss further, and supposing he would call - what would I tell him then?


I figure you acknowledged the ball was in his court. I'd wait a bit to see what goes on next.

I meant this in response to soleil. She suggested that I add "Please contact me to discuss this further." but I just don't know what we'd discuss then.

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I bet he didn't expect you not to argue with him about it. Now, let's see how well he has thought this through. If he doesn't say much within a week, then he hasn't planned it out.

I'm pretty sure he didn't expect that. He's either going to get mad even more that I didn't protest or I don't know what else he might do. I'm curious.


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No better way to cure your curiousity than to sit still and find out. I also can't think of what else you'd say, when H pulled this on me, all I could think of was stuff that was pursuing, etc.


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