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Re: On two ends of the world.. ris #2079032 09/20/10 05:42 PM
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TimeHeals Member T Joined: Apr 2010 Posts: 2,694	Quote: But it feels like a question... How does something "feel" like a question? Feelings: happy, sad, angry, depressed, etc. That is your mind being noisey M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-

Re: On two ends of the world.. TimeHeals #2079037 09/20/10 05:45 PM
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soleil Member S Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 2,372	I don't read that as a question, Ris. I read it as him telling you point blank he wants a D. And now it is your turn to respond.

Re: On two ends of the world.. soleil #2079048 09/20/10 05:56 PM
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OP ris Member R Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 374	Originally Posted By: soleil And now it is your turn to respond. Well that's why it feels/seems like a question - because it requires a response. He says he wants a D and the unsaid question is "And what do you say to this?". So I feel like I should state my position. Please argue with me on this, but to me "I know" sounds kinda arrogant, not really validating. Maybe "I see" would be more suitable? Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you Me:26 H:26 My thread

Re: On two ends of the world.. ris #2079062 09/20/10 06:05 PM
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OP ris Member R Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 374	I don't want to get into semantics. But I just can't shake the negative feeling about "I know you do". Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you Me:26 H:26 My thread

Re: On two ends of the world.. ris #2079064 09/20/10 06:07 PM
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Stubborn-Male New Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 24 France	How about saying 'OK, your decision not mine.' and leave it at that for the moment, await the response. My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2074259#Post2074259 M:64 W:45 Married: 08/07/2000 No children Bomb drop:05/04/2010 Moved out:05/04/2010

Re: On two ends of the world.. ris #2079066 09/20/10 06:07 PM
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TimeHeals Member T Joined: Apr 2010 Posts: 2,694	Quote: Please argue with me on this, but to me "I know" sounds kinda arrogant Then how about "OK". The idea is acknowledge to see if he has thought this through and has a lot more to say about the topic. Last edited by TimeHeals; 09/20/10 06:08 PM. M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-

Re: On two ends of the world.. TimeHeals #2079071 09/20/10 06:10 PM
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OP ris Member R Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 374	Well OK is agreeing, I don't really want that... How about "I see" or "I understand". Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you Me:26 H:26 My thread

Re: On two ends of the world.. TimeHeals #2079072 09/20/10 06:11 PM
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OP ris Member R Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 374	Originally Posted By: TimeHeals The idea is acknowledge to see if he has thought this through and has a lot more to say about the topic. Hmmm. I see what you're getting at now. Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you Me:26 H:26 My thread

Re: On two ends of the world.. ris #2079080 09/20/10 06:18 PM
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Stubborn-Male New Member S Joined: Sep 2010 Posts: 24 France	Sorry to but-in with my two cents. By saying 'OK' you are agreeing with his wanting a divorce, not with the divorce itself. My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2074259#Post2074259 M:64 W:45 Married: 08/07/2000 No children Bomb drop:05/04/2010 Moved out:05/04/2010

Re: On two ends of the world.. Stubborn-Male #2079101 09/20/10 06:33 PM
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OP ris Member R Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 374	Originally Posted By: Stubborn-Male Sorry to but-in with my two cents. By saying 'OK' you are agreeing with his wanting a divorce, not with the divorce itself. Any insight is welcome! But I think that "OK" is ambiguous and I don't want it to be misconstrued. I'm leaning towards "I see". Would that put the ball back in his court? Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you Me:26 H:26 My thread

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