I haven't been around here lately. Just been kinda bummed out. Found out last week that the wife already filed for divorce. She told me about it so that I wouldn't be surprised when I receive the divorce papers. I'm kinda getting upset though as she received her papers in the mail on Saturday and today is Wednesday and I still have not been served yet.
Found out that the first court date is Sept. 7th, which is less than 2 weeks away. I'm also upset that the court proceedings are not at the county courthouse, but instead are being held in a nearby city hall that is in a very dangerous neighborhood/city.
I do not know if I need a lawyer or not until I get the paperwork, but the wife is starting to freak me out by stating that there are 3 petitions that I will not like. Isn't there suppose to be a certain amount of time between the time I am served until the actual court date? I'm just asking because what if I don't get served until a few days before the court date...am I suppose to read and sign the numerous pages and obtain an attorney with only a few days notice? I'm just so bummed out.
.am I suppose to read and sign the numerous pages and obtain an attorney with only a few days notice? I'm just so bummed out.
only if you stayed bummed out.
if you don't have a L, then that's your first order of business in the am. they can possibly file a continuance to respond
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I haven't been around in awhile. Thought I would pop in and give a recap. I didn't have to go to the original court hearing as our lawyers were able to work out an agreement during the last minute. I am still miserable, but am trying to get another job so that I can at least try to support myself. Was thinking of getting a pet (preferably a kitten) to keep me company. I still talk to the wife every few days, but still get into arguments frequently. The EA is still going on even though she still says it's only a friendship. My family is a little supportive, but my friends don't really understand what I'm going through. I think I really do need some type of mental counseling to get through this as I just can't seem to get my mind out of the gutter. Today would be day 109 since the separation and I still cry daily. Just hurts thinking about how my life partner doesn't want me anymore and had to file so soon.
I'm sorry I know how you feel, most of us here are going through the same. I read a book when I first separated it helped me detach and stop hurting as bad it's a easy read give it a try. How to fall out of love by Dr. Debora Phillips.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
I'm sorry I know how you feel, most of us here are going through the same. I read a book when I first separated it helped me detach and stop hurting as bad it's a easy read give it a try. How to fall out of love by Dr. Debora Phillips.
Thanks, I will for sure have to find a copy of that book. It sounds like it is exactly what I need right now.
