I want to apologize to you. I did not mean to set you off down the road you took. That is the risk of giving advice to folks at their low point.
Look pard, I think you took what I said as ammunition instead of as a lever. The last thing I said was that you had the tools to act with "calm and control". Thank goodness the others rushed in and calmed you down a little. Take Eyore's advice and take that 24 hours to think through what it is exactly that you want.
Going to war may become necessary, but going nuclear right out of the barrel is likely to work against you.
I'm glad you are sleeping and excersizing. Keep it up.
God bless.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
I want to apologize to you. I did not mean to set you off down the road you took. That is the risk of giving advice to folks at their low point.
Look pard, I think you took what I said as ammunition instead of as a lever. The last thing I said was that you had the tools to act with "calm and control". Thank goodness the others rushed in and calmed you down a little. Take Eyore's advice and take that 24 hours to think through what it is exactly that you want.
Going to war may become necessary, but going nuclear right out of the barrel is likely to work against you.
I'm glad you are sleeping and excersizing. Keep it up.
God bless.
No problem. I really do appreciate all the advice you have given me. I need to keep my cool which is probably the hardest step to make. Nothing is easy with a EA/PA still in the picture. Tonight I am just going to relax and try to find some entertainment. Might go gambling at one of the riverboats, but don't worry I don't have much to bring with me...maybe $30 on top of the $30 comp I already have.
I did okay. Went gambling for 4 1/2 hours and ended up leaving with $86 more than I entered with, plus got a free buffet...so it worked out well.
Today on the otherhand didn't go so well. I just got done talking with the W (didn't fight), but it is completely over between us. She can't forgive me for the nuclear bomb I dropped the other day, plus refused to give me the tooth money. Now I need to stop worring about the M and start preparing for the divorce.
Don't worry so much about the future right now. Everyone here has heard the "It's Over" speech more times than we can count. Ignore 100% of what she says right now, and 50% of what she does.
It ain't over until it's over, and even then there's still hope. Read some of the other threads and you'll see stories of couples that got back together long after the divorce was final.
Try to go another day without talking to your wife. Lay low, and do something else for yourself.
Thanks for the input. I will for sure lay low for at least the next few days. I just feel so worthless and that it's all my fault. I never imagined how unhappy my W was in our relationship. I will start resuming the DR book so that maybe it will help myself overcome this. Either that or at least make me much stronger than I am now (which isn't really strong at all).
Last night was okay. I stayed up pretty late and played some videogames...something I love to do, but haven't done at all since the separation. Have had no contact with the W and don't plan on it for awhile.
