Hello all - Couldn't locate my older threads, but my story is a common one...emotionally neglected my wife, drank a lot, she dove into an MLC last year (i think), had an EA, I woke up, started working on myself....I'm not even the same human being I was a year ago..fit, clean, awesome like i was when we first met...she told me she loved me first time in many many months, in May...things began to get better, she started opening up to me...then suddenly early June she left suddenly while I was at work! blind-sided me....left a confusing note.. Left me with 13 yr old son and 17 yr old daughter. She misses them, our family was pretty close, she and I are friendly when we talk, she seems down recently, 'cause things didn't work out for her 100% in her new life I would imagine, and last saturday I called her just to chat a minute about son's birthday weekend - she told me she'd rather be in her own home, with her kids, she misses her home and every thing about it...wants to come back but needs to work at her job for a while....said she needed some time, and then she talked about what she wanted from me...to keep working on myself...talked about some future plans for the house once daughter leaves for college in Sept....and that was that for the conversation, I had to end it and leave for something. Since then I haven't asked any more about it, smothered her in any way, ...just keeping upbeat, nice texts 'good morning' and some funny things we talk about, emails about the kids if necessary, she replies and is very nice to me, etc. I love her to death even after this....have done 180s, read everything over the course of a year that i can find, distant but loving etc. and now my intuition and instincts tell me she's RIGHT on the fence....she says she misses her home and the kids but then says 'I do like Florida though, my job is five mins away, etc." so I feel like she's confused. Doesn't have her own place, lives with father and job is nice but doesn't pay enough to live on or get a place that the kids can stay in if they visit her. That's what she told me. Any advice for me going forward, other than what I already know - be patient, give her time and space to think a little more, and be compassionate, nice to her, etc? Anything else I can say to her, do, or is 'nothing' the best plan to entice her back to me?
