Interestingly, this has been my accidental strategy. We don't, however, see each other b/c he is mostly moved out. But I now understand that the growth in me while I'm waiting for the marriage to end or resume is positive regardless.
Sometimes I just need to give myself a pep talk because it is so easy to fall into inactivity. I'm hearing that I have to re-tool myself for a future without H and then, if he returns, I'll be stronger to work on success. Thanks for the suggestion. I needed to have a glimmer of hope.
I am not ready to confess my knowledge of H's relationship(s) which I know little about. What is getting easier through reading these posts is that I will never really know what made H snap at that time. His decision to leave was very impulsive and he quickly did things to keep him from being able to turn back. now, he has slowed down; he still has things here at the house. Friends and family have been supportive and counseling is a blessing. As a teacher I'm home for the summer and that is my biggest problem b/c I am too fixated on m problems. (In addition to H leaving my last daughter starts college in 3 weeks.) This is my plan: I am going to find something to do outside of my house every day this coming week. Thanks for the encouragement.
Maybe you could put together some sort of immersion plan to work into the lesson plan for the upcoming quarter. Some kind of scavenger hunt or role playing game to get the kids fired up. That could surely take a lot of time and effort.
Or, maybe take your college-bound D on an end of summer road trip. A week or two exploring our country might be a refreshing diversion.
Just thinking.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
Thanks, Chuck, I will read that website. I'm all for inspiration. And A_Goodman: my daughter and I are going to a water park for 3 days. I decided that even with our new financial problems, that trip is important. Thanks for the advice. This place is awesome for advice.
