I am finally starting to see the light. I do not need anyone to make me happy but ME! It is a very freeing feeling...But regardless if "anyone" reads this I need advice or input. I am finally realizing that the other woman is a very affected individual. She has text messaged me on numerous occassions, sent me a letter and called my home. My h posted a quote on an online site and she put it in her cube at work. When I mentioned it to my h she wrote it bigger and put hearts around it...very mature..really.. The funny thing is I do not care anymore WHAT she does with him and what she does not know is that I am over her childish games, because why care..really..if she wants him and he wants her then have a nice life. They have both disrespected me in every way possible. He has shown up with pictures of them, her necklace, notes in his pocket. She thinks I am keeping him there because of the kids when I have given him a million opportunites to go and see what life would be like with his "soul mate" as she says and the love of his life. How do I get AWAY from her? Is her behavior normal? How do I let her know that really she is insignificant in my life now and I have so much more to worry about than what she is doing with hers. I have my kids to think of and myself and my family. That is my priority..not some nutcase...HElP! Is this normal??
Last edited by swimmingupstream; 07/26/1005:58 PM.
Unfortunately, you say she's insignificant, but your whole post says otherwise.
It sounds like you need to detach from both of them. Put a little distance between you and them for a while, and fill the time with people and things that matter to YOU.
You're right, you don't need anybody else to make you happy. You can and should do that for yourself.
Eventually, she won't have the power over you she has right now. Then, she truly will be insignificant.
You are right. I do let it get to me and that is exactaly what she is trying to accomplish. I think that because she is being so disrespectful and that I have to work with this woman and see her on a daily basis it is hard for me. But I do know that I am a better person than her so I guess it is the fact that I do not understand how someone could be so mean and immature and for godsakes you are having an affair with my husband so have some class..really...but I guess class is not her thing!
Last edited by swimmingupstream; 07/26/1006:10 PM.
By ignoring her, not allowing her the real estate in your brain, and being so busy with your own GAL stuff that she becomes the pimple on your butt that she SHOULD be.
YEs!! I am headed that way. I am really feeling good about myself. To hell with her! She does not deserve a second in my brain..but I must say..I do not feel threatened by her..I just am tired of being disrespected. I do not deserve that. I am a good person!
It sounds like you need to detach from both of them. Put a little distance between you and them for a while, and fill the time with people and things that matter to YOU.
Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
By ignoring her, not allowing her the real estate in your brain, and being so busy with your own GAL stuff that she becomes the pimple on your butt that she SHOULD be.
Just in case you missed Puppy and my suggestions the first time...
2) Let her know that you are GLAD to get rid of the loser and that she CAN have him... you know.. she has your hand me downs.. your sloppy seconds.. your throw aways that you don't need or want anymore....... like she bought a used car from you and you got her by selling her a lemon... a "gotcha" moment...
The ONLY part I will disagree with is the loser part. We all have problems and he just made bad decisions. What he did is unexcusable and it is very hurtful but I do not think he is a loser. I think she has had a lot of influence over the decisions he has made and that is sad because I have seen him change a lot over the past year. I do not think anyone in this WHOLE WORLD is a loser..I just think people make very bad decisions. I am not good at being mean so I hope you dont take what I said personally. I just want you to know that while I am hurt by his decisons I would never want him to think he is a loser. I think that he is going through a hard time right now and I think he has taken the wrong path in his life but I cant change that for him. As for her...she is a mess of a human being and I feel sorry for her..point blank...sorry for any woman that would go after a married man with children...how do you justify that in your mind? I am not sure how she looks at herself in the mirror every day. What kind of role model is she for her children? Regardless of the outcome, she is the one who has to live with herself as does my h. Poor choices..that's all!
