Yeah, that was a HUGE downtime. I would have gone absolutely bonkers 2 years ago! I think I checked this board every 3 minutes. Thank goodness it wasn't blocked at work!
Missed you all. Hope everyone had good weekends!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Hey G, I remember you posting from the airport sharing how alone you felt. I could picture you here at our departure hall and it broke my heart... SO glad things have changed so much for you!! (your baby girl is soooo cute!).
Guys, during the down time, I didnt divorce or remarry, but I did tell my H I want a divorce (again)... It doesnt matter now,I dont want to get nto details. He has quit and will stop working crazy hours in a few weeks. With the current financial state here, it is a risk but as he put it:save my family or have a job. He chose the first(with a HUGE delay)...
As I posted on FB, docs gave my dad another 2-4 months. No metastasis, all vital organs working fine, his prognosis with his test results could be 10 years as the docs told us. His depression and giving up has switched off "strength supply"... It is so sad.
I started a blog. I am posting all the articles, chapters etc that I have translated over these last 3 years. Michelle's, Stosny, Schnarch, Glass. If someone finds his way to the blog, searching the net, after a bomb and devasted as I did, I will be happy. K
I thought the same thing.. I wouldnt have coped back in the early days if the board was down that long! I was on it every night till 3 am and it was a literal life line.
K...seriously, can you get a doctor to do a house call to your Dad and tell the Doc he is depressed, but to not let on to your Dad that’s why he's seeing him, but just to talk to him about how he is feeling? Maybe he could then prescribe him an antidepressant, to bring him out of this, but he could tell your Dad it is to help boost him.. so that he can eat properly?? He would be pleased at that!
H's Dad was so depressed after his stroke, he also gave up and was staying in bed, weak and refused to get help.. so we arranged a psychiatric appointment without telling him what it was for and the doctor diagnosed depression. I then went for a consultation with a Bach Flower Remedy practitioner, (because there was no way we could get his Dad to go see her, he was too ill and tired) and she prescribed a mix of natural flower remedies which we gave him every day... and it worked! His depression lifted and he started going out again on his mobility scooter and eating better. He also became more open and emotional whereas before he had been closed off and noncommunicative and we had many good conversations with him.
Sadly he had another stroke within 3 years and died. I'm just saying.. don’t give in to what the doctor told you, sounds like there is hope. You were sneaky before with those other tablets from the US..
No, the one evening job. As of next Friday. He is very sad about it which worries me. He said he is doing it for ME. I told him he isnt. If he is and not doing it for him, we are heading for a problem down the road.
He did say he feels I am the only person for him, like I am "his person", you know?
You are definitely right that he needs to do it for himself.
If he is doing it because his family and you are important to him, that's fine because he is doing it because of his values. But doing it just because he knows you want him to it not. A small distinction, but I think knowing that he is the one making the choice is very important.
That is a very sweet thing for him to say!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
No, the one evening job. As of next Friday. He is very sad about it which worries me. He said he is doing it for ME. I told him he isnt. If he is and not doing it for him, we are heading for a problem down the road.
He did say he feels I am the only person for him, like I am "his person", you know?
I like that he said this. I am sorry to hear about your father. I've been through this with both my parents and it's tough. Prayers are with you.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
