Hi Punkin, hope your meeting with H goes well today....I know how much those meetings take out of us....keep strong...no expectations...get ready for all kinds of surprises....don't let him rattle you. Thinking of you (((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Well, he called about 10:30. Wanted to know where my lawyers office was so he could drop off the papers. It's right next to his lawyers office. DUH. Anyway, he had no plans to see me at all and I just couldn't have that. Right before lunch, I saw H with stepson and wife walking into Chinese Restaurant across from our building. So . . .
Me and two co workers walked over for Chinese Buffet today. Got through the entire meal without looking at him once. Friend said he was sneaking looks at me. We talked and laughed and ate. He left first.
D24 says when he came over he didn't stay long, didn't bring anything about college hours, and she didn't ask. Says DIL called and told her about lunch and about how I walked in and 'Looked HOT'. Don't ya love it? Even daughter admitted I looked hot and wanted to borrow the clothes.
No calls from my lawyer yet. He has court all day Thursday, so I guess we won't be closing on any property tomorrow.
So! What's everybody think?
P.S. - So grateful for everyone's positive thoughts today. I wasn't even nervous.
Stay the course...your lawyer may set something up for Friday.
I think you handled the lunch situation quite well. Stay positive.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks everyone. Yes, I do feel today was a sort of personal victory. In that he got to see that I am strong and able and going on without him.
In the strangest way, I feel a calm. The only time I looked up at him was his back as he left for the cash register. And you know what? I didn't feel a thing. Nothing. Not anger, not fear, remorse, grief. Nothing. Just carried on my conversation with my friends and finished our lunch.
This calm has me puzzled.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
That happened to me too, Punkin. Just recently actually. I just knew I was going to be ok. That's a good feeling...the calm part. I thought it was weird too. I wasn't expecting it and couldn't put my finger on what did it. I still feel like that except for one time last week. Not sure what that was all about..I just chalked it up to a bad day.
