suspicious friend on facebook EA how to find out

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Please help
I have been legally separated for 4 months but my wife has been very very unhappy for years she clams. We have two children 4 and 7
I just searched face book and low and behold she has an account. To add insult to injury there are pictures of a men friend . I have been married 10 years I have never seen this man. PLEASE help… I do not know what to do.
Do I confront her to try and clear my mind / is it any of my business.
Comments please.
Stich

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Allen A wrote
If she's your wife it's your business.

Read through any text on facebook to see if there is any suspicious being said.

Start collecting information about her activities online and her cell phone.

QuickSilver can tell you how to install software on your network so you can read what she's communicating each night on the PC

Does she have her own PC?

Stitch please move these questions to your own thread on this forum (create one) and we can expand further and help you out

QuickSilver please help
Thanks for your time

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Read through any text on facebook to see if there is any suspicious being said

If you are not excepted as a friend on face book how are you able to see what the two of them are saying to each other

Start collecting information about her activities online and her cell phone.

All I know is her cell number how do you obtain information as to who and what she is saying to him.

QuickSilver can tell you how to install software on your network so you can read what she's communicating each night on the PC

Does she have her own PC?

She has her own laptop. She is living with her parents.

Not sleeping much
Stitch

[Quicksilver264]

One of the only POSSIBLE ways to get what you need would be this:

http://www.spectorsoft.com/products/eblaster_windows/help/v50/webhelp/eBlaster_Remote_Install.htm

But you will be banking on the fact that she will open the .exe file attachment, and that is a BIG IF.

There are other keylogger programs that can embed themselves in a .jpg, .doc or any other file, and you just have to hope the email service you or she uses doesn't detect it as a virus.

You get ONE SHOT at this, because if you tip her off, you are dead in the water.

My suggestion would be to try and setup a meeting, or have her come over to "exchange digital pictures". Like tell her you'd like BOTH of you to have all the digital pics that you both want, and make sure you have them all backed up.

Then you can run a silent install fairly easily that has been preconfigured.

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Smart.

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Thanks for the information
Is it wise to just come out and ask her who her new freind is on Facebook. The picture shows a young man with his daughter. You would think once they connected and became face book friends they would know they are visable. If I log into face book then enter my wifes name there it is a picture of him and his child. All other friends are females I have seen or heard of every one of them, like I said we have been married 10 years.

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No. It makes you look accusatory and pursuing, and she'll only lie anyway.

NEVER confront infidelity until you have an iron-clad (or near-iron-clad) bank of intel, and only then with a confident "I know all about you and so-and-so . . . " speech.

If you DON'T "know all about," then you're not ready to confront, and you need more intel.

Puppy

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bank of intel, and only then with a confident "I know all about you and so-and-so . . . " speech.

If you DON'T "know all about," then you're not ready to confront, and you need more intel.

Sorry not sure what you are saying "BANK OF INTEL"

Stitch

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Sum total of your gathered evidence.

[Quicksilver264]

Here is why intel WORKS:

From a post of mine:

When mentioning the sexting pictures, she said that she wouldn't do that because I could check. (She still doesn't know I have the conversations from last night mentioning Skype).

I said, "But you have a webcam"

She said "I don't even know how to use Skype with a webcam"

I said: "I never said anything about Skype did I? Why would you say Skype when your laptop has an easy integrated wemcam browser"

DEAD TO RIGHTS. That's when she FINALLY admitted she sex chatted last night, the same day I bared my soul to her and she said she'd at least give me a "fair chance".

See what I did there? I kept cornering her and cornering her, DIRECTING THE CONVERSATION UNTIL SHE MADE A MISTAKE.

When you know EVERYTHING, you can TRAP THEM IN THEIR LIES.

If you read my thread, you will see how long that night my wife LIED TO MY FACE. SHE STILL LIES NOW.

But since she didn't know what I REALLY knew, she tried to bluff her way out of it. When they keep bluffing, you make a call, and trap them into a lie in order to cover up the last lie.

Then, EVENTUALLY their lies CONTRADICT each other, and you have them dead to rights.


BE WARNED. WHEN YOU FINALLY TRAP THEM THEY LASH OUT AS IF YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG. They are like a cornered animal that will fight to the death.

You spied on me!!!!!

How DARE you invade my privacy!!!

It's none of your business!!!

I can NEVER trust you again!!!!