Thanks everyone. I am seeing that ex's life right now is not so good. He is miserable, but I don't think he can figure out why. The brain is just so confused and messed up with emotions, feelings, and bad childhood baggage. It just needs to go through some kind of sorting. In the meantime, he is trying to retaliate from the mediation. Just the usual talking bad about me to everyone he can, including the kids. It will have to play out......again. You really learn not to care what anyone thinks anymore. Really, I don't even know if people believe ex or not when he spews negativity about me.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I'm sorry....the best thing to do is not to stoop to his level. Remain calm and silent and smile every opportunity that you get. You do not need to defend yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Sad that he doesnt seem to be able to find his way out and still blames you anyone on the outside looking in can see the truth and the immaturity you are strong, although it doesnt matter what others may believe, I think most sane people can see the truth so no need to do anything except be who you already are..he has a long way to still go have a wonderful holiday peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Thanks everyone for the kind words, I did not realize how much I needed to hear it. Merry Christmas to all of you.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex following mediation rules like a tee. He has even let me have the kids more this holiday than stated in our divorce decree. It was a wonderful 24th and a very peaceful 25th. God bless all of you...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I am very happy to see that you had a peaceful and enjoyable Christmas this year. May he continue to work w/you, even if he is made to follow the mediation rules...(his fault, no less).
I hope that the new year will bring you peace and happiness.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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