How to get her to talk and cooperate

[MarkIII]

My soon to be ex left me a month ago on fathers day, taking my two small children with her and not letting me see nor talk to them. She filed on June23rd, we got into court and I get temporary visitation Sat. & Sun. 10am-6pm every other. Untill the domestic relations looks into everything. I have custody of my four older kids so shouldnt be a problem. How can I get her to just talk to me even if its just for the kids, she is in total shut down mode. When I try to say something its I cant talk to you talk to my lawyer.. People say just let her be, but it is killing me and hurting so bad. I just want the truth not some bs story I dont love you any longer. We never fought always showed affection, I always worked and provided. Im 36 she is 24. I been told by the church counsler that she is doing like a runaway teen does, and she is actually running from her own self and feelings.

She came and went several times since June 8th and the 20th but right before the 20th I found risque texts to a cop guy we knew. How can the grass be greener she and my two kids ages 4 and 2 are sleeping on the floor at her dads house. Least thats what the 4 yr says. Her dad is buying her new clothes and stuff Ive noticed unless its another man..

How can I deal with this. She is ordered to goto some court parenting class soon, and my attorney on Friday requested the courts order her to counseling/mediation since she is not cooperating. Im owed 10 hrs extra time and she will not let me have it to take the 4 yr old to church.

Any opinions or advise is welcomed. She also deleted her email account and blocked me and everyone we know from her facebook maden name account.

[Kimmie Lee]

Stop trying to get her to talk to you.

Just let your atty handle any visitation/custody issues. If you can get shared custody, go for it.

[MarkIII]

That is easier said then done, I can not even get myself mad enough. I'm just hurting and frustrated. Hoping someone can help me cope with this better.

[pinhead]

Hi MK3,

Each of us copes in different ways. I count on my family, friends and faith when times seem bleak.

I found that doing exercise, and setting small goals helps for me. I've wanted to lose weight, so that's been my goal. I walk every morning, and I'm eating healthy foods. Definitely a 180 for me.

You'll need to find your own path; we can't really tell you what it is. For some this site can be a welcome relief to know you're not alone.

Hang in there and know that it'll get better. It might get worse first, but you'll make it.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Here is the thing. Trying to get her to cooperate is controlling...no way around it.

[CPCajun]

As the others said, let the L deal with custody.

When you do see W, make sure you look and smell nice. Also keep a smile and be happy. Then when you do have your kids, have the best time you can with them. These will be a start on how W sees you GAL. You start being the catnip. It may be slow, but she will come out to play. It may start with a phone call. What ever it is, do not blow it. Be happy and smile when you talk to her. Its funny, but keeping a smile on the phone will keep your attitude up and will be conveyed over the phone.

Remember validate her feelings if the R talk comes up.