i started a new thread because i am not dbing this r anymore. i hate this women. she has completely lied about everything in the last week. she told me one thing her new man another and then betrayed me right in front of him. i was with her for nine years. she is trying to tell me that i am lying when i now what is true. i can not believe i thought about suicide over her. i cant believe that i loved her. i trusted this person. what has she become. i will not forgive. i dont care what harm it does to me so dont tell me to forgive. i forgive her sleeping around. she swore that she wanted to work it out and then changed her mind. that was fine. if she would have told me she changed her mind but no she said i made it all up. this is not the girl that i know or knew. this is something else. i will not have any contact with her again. i have told her that. i will not recieve her phone calls. i will not send her money like i did last week. i will not lift a finger for her. i have been her safety net. i let myself be use. i really hate her for exploiting me. i let it happen. i can not believe that she lied to my face. i can believe that she would lie to save her own skin but last night when she called it was just me and her and she totally lied about trying to get back.
This is a forum for people who are fighting for their marriages. If you give up (which you have every right to do, if you feel you must), then you shouldn't start a new thread, you should just leave.
Or are you REALLY not as "done" as you say you are?
par you need to take a break from these forums and your wife, we told you a while ago you need to detach, that means letting her go, if you really loved her and wanted her to be happy, let her go, let her be free to make whatever choices/mistakes in her life she chooses to make.
It's hard but it's something you need to do, you have a lot of anger inside of you now and it's because of the fact that you won't detach from her.
Yes, i still love her. She is an addict. You want to talk about 180 she does it everyday. I screws with my head so bad i can't take it anymore or i am going to go crazy. changes what she wants every damn day.
the only thing you can do is decide to stop riding that crazy rollercoaster with her, I think it's in your best interests to get off that ride and take a break from her.