I've been with H 7 years. We have a DD5. A few days ago I received his lawyer letter saying he wants to end our M. I have been hopeful because he didn't actually file. I grabbed Divorce Remedy having read DB a few years ago. Our M has always been rocky. Lately, it was backburnered while we tried to get moved to our new house. Well, we moved - he sleeps downstairs, and now this.
I've been crying all day. We had a nice time last night with DD, which almost made it worse. I know I need to LRT and crying is not the answer but I can't seem to stop. It's worse when he is near.
Is it too late? I want us to go to counseling as our M does not a lot of work. It has been a SSM for a while - needs not being met for either of us. We are disconnected. Yet, I am not ready to give up. Apparently, he is.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
You mentioned that you picked up DB a few years ago? Were there issues in your marriage then? What were they if you can summarize and we can try to help.
In addition, you may find more traffic in the Newcomers forum. I would move this thread over there.
Last edited by ShellDoll; 07/18/1009:27 PM.
Me 41/H 49 M 12yrs No Kids Bomb 1/10/2010 H Deployed The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are, first, hard work; second, stick-to-itiveness; third, common sense. T. Edison
Thanks Shelldoll. I did post in Newcomers, but I'm not getting much feedback there either. There have always been issues. My H has some very difficult traits. He used to routinely engaged in namecalling, screaming, silent treatment, etc. That improved after I set firm boundaries. However, then we seemed to move into a limbo and had long periods of ssm. I would make efforts to change that even though I felt little desire, he would do nothing but complain.
There are several good things about him and we do parent well together. I honestly don't know if our M could work as I don't feel it has ever had a fair shake. So, I would like to bust this current D idea to find out if we can make it better.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
I'm working the LRT as well. It's the hardest thing ever. But I feel it's worth it. That's the decision you have to make. And if it is, well then, get to work. :-) It won't fix itself. I have made the decision to love my wife no matter what. I'll never give up. It's too important.
M-34 W-31 2 S,11&11 1 D, 6 T 13 YEARS M 12 YEARS ILYBINILWY OCT. 2009 We are too close. All we see are smears of paint. The Lord sees the masterpiece He is painting.
